STRESSSSSSSS

Blubbs... why the sudden sentimental post? All your thoughs.. is it because of your car ice-skating feat =P But I do agree.. we are indeed very fortunate.. so I'll guess we'll have to cherish what we have, make the most out of it, and try to help those that are less fortunate in return =)

On another note... Blubbbssss... I'm suuupppeeerrr streeesssseeeedddddd! It's only the third week of school, how la, next week Chinese New Year, don't think have the mood and time to celebrate.. I have got an assignment due next Tuesday (the programming one that has been driving me crazy, what vim lah, sql lah...), but till now we haven't really started on it.. My group is like heck care one.. Don't even bother to meet or discuss T_T Die la.. and my AJAX not even working, that's only the first step.. booohooo T_T You know anyone good in programming? I really need a personal programming counsultant to help me see why my code is not working... Cry cry cry... Next Tuesday I'll have to finish my final year project too... How la how la.... Chinese New Year burned lah...

I so long never read blog already.. Too busy T_T But I saw you added many nice foodie posts in the blubbiefoodies blog .. yayayay.. keep it up baby.. I love you lots.. Err.. I will cook and post pics after this hectic semester is over... And where's your pics?!!? *fuming mad liao*

Unforgivable Sinner...

Remember how you mentioned you were overblessed jean?maybe you're right...so many of us take things for granted...and that includes me...

Sometimes...things comes so easy...everything handed upon on a silver platter...that we fail to take a moment to pause...to understand...that these gifts handed to us..be it of a material good, or even the slightest gift of all like a hug or family who loves us....that someone somewhere in the world has no fortune of understanding...

Each days, there's so many utters which comprises of "I wish....If only....What if..."...failing to see what's around...

Some people lived their lives to the fullest....perfect in every way....the full package...of beauty,brains and kindness, yet they do not have the gift of life....the last breathe taken upon by some force of nature...

And here lies the other kind of people...who's had all they could have been grateful for in life...but looks upon it too easily...including me...

Of all my 22 years of life, I've never had to live a hard life.....I get everything I've ever wanted...and my parents..they never complained...from annual vacations abroad.....college life in an air cond room which cost more than the common rooms...to an education abroad in America...which more than likely not cost an arm each semester...

My mom was right when she said we have led too easy a life....while others more deserving children, bright and talented simply do not have the opportunities..not because they don't deserve it...but of circumstances not in their control....

So many what if runs through my head....of the many a times I've cause sorrow or dissapointment to my parents, the talking back, the tears....the selfishness...

Not only to family..but to friends to...how many a times has it been when I've been absolutely horrid to someone...

Or even to a mere stranger...or a passerby...or even a homeless beggar on the street...whom I could have handed a dollar to....for him to make a better day....

Like I've said...so many impossibles..of what ifs...

There's only one thing to do..that is to do them proud...it won't erase anything...but it would make up everything that did not go right...

People may say..."it's only human...people make mistakes"

Well here's what I say.....I may be only human...but I should have known better...life's too short...It's time to stop wallowing...and time to make a change...words carries no weight...so it's time to show a little action....for it's true...we'll never know how far does tomorrow goes...not only for ourself...but the ones we love....

So many deaths...each day....someone who could have brought a better future to the world...it pains me to see these lives taken away...It saddens me...but it has also brought me much realization and sense...in which I have to be a better person...I'm not saying I haven't been even a little good...but it doesn't hurt to try harder to be a better person...

Life and it's mysteries...of how the memories and words of a person lives on...with each word re-read seems so much more lively and surreal...a life re-lived with each tale,each entry...

And for those who has lost a loved one...my heart goes out to you....It may not be of any consolation...or bring back the happy memories..but I have learnt....that it's time to give back...to those of lesser fortunate....

Of Egg Custard Buns and Lam Kuih.....

Hrm....so after looking at the vast of food in my pantry, I have decided...no more grocery shopping for the next month of more....!!!!!!I had no clue I have so much stuff....so I've decided to make use of all my stuff first before buying anymore.....So I made simple stuff hahaha..eh must go to school right...so this is what I made:

Egg Custard Bun....this simple buns were quick and easy....just the usual sweet dough filled with egg custard...seeing that I am only cooking for myself, I only made four large buns...why make too many as I'll only get sick of eating them....hehe:



This is Lam Kuih(in hokkien)...I have no clue what they are called in english...glutinous rice cakes???....rough translation would be blue pastry????I had none of those flowers so I used a little blue coloring....this took a little longer but when one has the cravings for local delicacies, you just have to bear with it..booohoohoo...the kaya was just basic vanilla flavored as I haven't the slightest clue where I placed my pandan essence bottle when I moved...



It really taste more appetizing that it looks...hahaha....


And it gets better when accompanied by a glass of kopi o...hohohoho..the perfect midnight snack....and I was wondering where those extra pounds were coming from=x






So hohum....I shall make red bean mochi bread tomorrow seeing that it's friday.....not your favorite right jean=P....

Still staring at the cookie post

Eh eh.....

I just saw the picture of the cookie your mom made again..is that homemade chips I see!!!!!!!!MY superbly all time favorite!!!!!!

Whenever I go home for summer vacation ,y dad will always buy me a tin.....T___________________T....super yummy but super expensive too....like 20 ringgit one large milo tin!!!!!!My papa says it's quite tedious job that's why they charge so expensive....

I guess this new year I'm stuck making my own cookies.....again.....as usual....for the past three years....=(

Busy Drooling~~~~

Ahhhh........FEDEX/UPS/DHL/TNT/POS LAJU/SINGPOST EXPRESS/EMS me the cookiesT_________________________________T...tell your mom I'll errr help her buy ingredients......so hungry....

Err jean....by the way, when's chinese new year=x.....I have no clueT________________T....I fail as a chineseT_______________________T.....

Hrm.....so yeah went looking for your goodies....found the shirt...but haven't look for the other stores one....got myself a bubble tea.....and zoom off to school=x

To console myself for no cookies, I shall go make some red bean bunsT_T......

Hahaha....according to your post...the one person you hope to meet in heaven is your first first super crush....as for me..errr...I hope not...if there's a heaven...then please la...have mercy don't let me meet himT_T....why you ask...because isn't heaven suppose to be eternal....then how la!!!!!....forever finding different route to avoid him.....tiring enough in college when I see him walking one direction then have to reroute..heaven leh!!!!!only consolation....heaven is supposed to be filled with infinite staircase right...so forever climb staircase=x

One thing is confirmed...I am very wuliao....=x

Went swimming last week.....I think I looked like a platypus waddling n the water learning the freestyle the instructor taught me....I figured I made her laugh moreT_T....and as usual, I am super pandai..swim without goggles..so divert like to the left....so I told her..err please scream if you see me in the midst of banging into the person in the other lane.....why la so memalukan oneT_T

Yala yala.....i don't put pictures!!!!!let's just make it this way...errr:

East Side Girl, THE JEAN shall be seen as the public figure to this blog
West SIDE GIRL, THE KLUTZ shall never be seen..too scary and hideous....bwahahahahaa....

Eh but but hideous also very sweet still okay!!!!!!cannot judge by appearance=x

Pictures of my apartment la once I clean it.....what la....move also still quite messy okay*excuses*....very common problem right=P......

I'm still stuck at work for the next 2 hours......and who knows how long I have been twirling in the office chair*hrm is that why some people look at me funny=x*.....okay..back to work....*looks at patrons with big shiny eyes.....as big as my chinese mata kecil can open la!!!!*

Food food!!

Chinese New Year is coming soon.. mumsie has already made new year biscuits..


She made peanut cookies (front) and mushroom crackers (the crackers are made from some kind of mushroom which I've never seen before).. I like the mushroom crackers hee.. but I got heaty cuz I ate too much!!

Lol I'm spamming the blog with 3 posts and lots of wu liao pics.. Nothing better to do today.. haha

Fashion fashion!!

See this very yau yeng sunglasses!!! I took the pic okay... so nice horr.. *proud*



Actually this is my vainpot's brother's sunglasses... hahaha.. but I like it.. no need to buy new sunglasses le =P

Bye bye old house

See my sexy handwriting =P


Hello new house! (Actually not done yet haha)


See me so yau yeng.. *cough cough*


My err.. twin sister.. (dunno why she look very pale, not beacuse I bully her okay?)

encounters

Blubbs.. I have just finished reading The Five People You Meet In Heaven (was so sian at the library the other day that I went to dig the shelves for story books and I saw alot of good books, don't know whether I have time to read them all though) Anyways, the story is average but it does throw out an interesting fact, that people are somehow interconnected to each other, what each person does may affect another person's life, and that person may be someone close and even a total stranger.

I used to think, while taking the mrt or the public bus, that people in the same train or same bus are connected to each other in some way, or maybe the whole world is connected. The woman sitting next to you may be your mother's friend's daughter-in-law, the boy sitting next to you may be your friend's friend's brother's son etc. etc. It's kind of intriguing when you think of that, the world being full of tiny little invisible connections that brings us all together.

And getting to meet and know a person in your life is also an amazing thing, it seems like every encounter is so random yet so carefully arranged. Who would have known that the quiet girl who was in the same group as me in my lab during my first year, whom I never get to talk much with and whom I didn't know her name, went for exchange to UK and stayed in the same hostel with me two years later?

Who would have known that during the first day of my English class last semester, where I picked random seat because I didn't know anyone, I ended up sitting next to another girl who've went for exchange with us too, but whom I've only saw twice during that whole 4 months in UK (because we're in different campus)?

Who would have expected to meet your primary school or secondary school classmate who've lost contact with you at the most unexpected places? The call of your name, the turn of your head, the blank moment as you try to recall, and the ultimate surprise and mild joy that someone actually remembered your face and your name.

And when I was on the way to my Japanese studies class today, a class which I did not know anyone, I had a feeling that I might just end up sitting next to a person I know. It turns out that the guy sitting next to me is this pretty high profile guy who used to stay in my hostel, i.e. people know him, but he might not know everyone. I used to walk past him in the hostel, I used to see him talk and laugh with my friends, but I never thought that we would get to know each other because I didn't belong in that group. The only impression I had of him was him wearing glasses, a big yellow tee, shorts and sports shoes, going somewhere (but I forgot where) But who would have known? We started talking after the class and he said he'll leave a seat for me every week during class.

I don't know. It really blows me away. Those numerous meaningless encounters you've had in life are not that meaningless after all, one day they'll come back to you. Those people who walk past you everyday, the lady whom you've bumped into accidentally, the guy whom you've borrowed a ten cent coin too, they might just cross your life one day. It's like the 'Turn Left, Turn Right' story.

Fate is such an amazing thing. Wow~

Clothes

Blubbbss.. you and ur friend still want the papergirlsshop clothes?
Please give me confirmation ya.. (model name, size if any) i scared i order liao wait suddenly you two say don't want... thanks thanks~~~

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You know I'll paint the world in every imaginable hue....if it meant that you'll be closer to me....

I could have given my all....but I failed to ask myself....could you have done the same for me?

I finally understood my infactuation towards you...it wasn't because I was in like with who you were, but more so of who I thought you could be....

You were the perfect stranger...so we had cross paths in school a couple of times....like at first sight it was.....but nothing works one way....and that was what it was....

It makes me wonder....

What mystical spell you hold upon....

which makes my hear a-flutter....

Isn't it all just so funny....


People say that time heals all wounds....and so they lied.....

Cold Air for Blubbie

Errr....calm down blubbie calm down......=x

It's been nice knowing you but I think it's time we go separate ways.....why la you so scary one!!!!!!!!Of all the years I know you...what have you become...ahahahahaha...sorry jean......*sayangs la*....

Don't get so work up okay.....not good for the blood pressure=).....That dude is not worth the energy nor the language casualty to even be bothered with.....

However, on the whole, I have to agree...what a HORRIBLE PERSON!!!!...is it so wrong to be friends?poor you....hahhaa..but I have to thank him though....do you know how hard it is to drag you out to school early!!!!!!!At least now got motivation right=x..sorry blubbie.....didn't mean it in a evil way^^v

So cheer up okay....I'm off to the mall to get you your goodies~~~~~~~(eh that being said don't go into a fighting cock mode in school......that baboon is not worth it!!!!!)

Grr...

Grrrr.. I'm so mad.. I just want to bitch.. not about a girl... but a GUY... he's pissing me off since school starts.. It's quite a long story, if I were to make you understand the whole situation... but I don't care, bear with me =P

Well, to start off, I knew him in class last year.. He always sits in the row that is in front of me and one day he suddenly kept on turning back to look at me, then he asked me whether I was taking the other class as well.. and I was like yeah and we started talking.. After a few encounters, he asked me for my msn and phone number.. and he started talking to me on msn and through sms... then one day he told me, on msn, "You know something? If you weren't attached I think I would have fallen in love with you." Okay, I was quite surprised to hear that from someone I have only talked to several times. And he asked me whether I will avoid him, of course I have to say no, and so I met him sometimes for lunch or to study together blah, he tried asking me out for movies and stuff but I rejected, I only meet him in campus.

Then one day after exams, he started asking me for the msn of the girl who always sits beside me in class. I asked him whether did he know her, he said yes, they've talked on the bus on the way home. So I just gave him without thinking. And who knows one day I happen to know that the girl is blocking him on msn, so I went to ask her, and she told me that he is very irritating always bugging her on msn, and always asking her to go out with him, which she of course rejected too.

I realised that he is pretty desperate.

And then came the new semester, as I took two classes with him, he was like asking me to reserve seats (err... the kiasu culture of nus) for him for the lectures, I did. And it happened that my friend who went to UK with me was in one of the classes, and so I always sit with her (partly to shake him off) and he, tagging along, will sit with us too.

Soon I noticed that people who he always say hi to while walking along corridors are mostly girls. And I wondered whether he had confessed to them all (and got rejected XD)

Before long he was asking me for my friend's msn. Knowing how he pestered my other friend in the last semester, I didn't want to give him. And he started asking me, "Why cannot?" "Is she that private?" I don't want to ruin my friend's image and let people misunderstand her as some cold heartless girl, so I went to ask for her permission and warned her that he used to pester my friend. She said okay and that she will ignore him if he pesters her too much.

And soon soon I noticed that he became extra nice to her in class and stuff. And she started complaining to me that he is pestering her ALOT, even to the extent of asking her to sms him when she gets back from lab, messaging her good night everyday, asing her out during her birthday to treat her to dinner. Of course, she didn't like him at all. (I must tell you, he is NOT good looking at all okay! Small guy, nerdy look)

During the holidays, I broke up with ah yeff and for some reason he asked about ah yeff or something and I told him. Then he started asking me out during Christmas eve and stuff, and I quickly told him I have to go back to Malaysia. Next weekend he asked me again, same excuse. So he asked me out on one Monday for dinner instead, I was abit bad lah... I told him "If you want to eat dinner come to the area near my workplace, I don't want to travel so far just to eat dinner.. and I don't want to eat too expensive stuff.. food court can le.." That's because I want him to back off and stop getting ideas about me just because I broke up. And by the way, if you really treat me as a friend, you wouldn't mind right? Then after that I didn't ask him to confirm about the dinner, until he asked me the day before, I just said okay. Then on that day itself he said he'll go home to eat dinner instead. Haha.. my strategy worked. After that he tried to ask me out during weekends, but thank god I am always at home, so I just tell him I'm in jb.

Then now comes the new semester, and the day before school starts, the girl whom he has been pestering came to chat with me on msn. She said that the guy asked her to reserve a seat for him for class tomorrow. I was like WHAT? He didn't mention anything about sitting together in class to me at all, even when we were talking about what classes we're taking this semester!! I mean, I have been sitting with him in class last semester and now he was like wanting to sit with her and brush me aside!! I'm quite pissed off at him. (Then I realised he hasn't been talking to me much on msn) My friend didn't want to sit with him so we devised a plan, she will only reserve one seat and I will come before him and grab that seat. I don't mind being the bad guy here =D But the plan failed, I came late and I had to sit alone for the first class, not like he cares.

Then the same day, my tuition kid was asking for gloves from lab to play with (lame interest I know =_=) I used to ask the guy to take a pair of gloves from me once last semester, and he agreed. But I was quite mad at him dumping me alone in class, so I asked my friend instead. But she refused, saying that there are always people in her lab and she can't take the gloves. So I had to ask him again. And he was like giving me that kind of stuck up attitude, whining and whining and whining.. "Don't want lah, I lazy to always take gloves for your tuition kid." "Why must it always be me? Why don't you ask her(my friend)?" Then when I told her she can't, he was like "Excuses, I did that when there's people around too" At first I beared with it and I even said PLEASE and THANK YOU to him. But he went on complaining and complaining, and finally said "I shall ask her myself" (Like if he ask she will agree for his sake =_= who does he think he is) I was getting more and more pissed off at him. If you can't just say can't, why the hell are you giving me this kind of lousy attitude like I owe you a big favour. For f***k's sake, it's just a pair of F***king gloves!!! Not like I asked him to lend me 5k or rob a bank or something!! (Shit, I shold have scolded him on msn yesterday, asking him why is he getting so worked up on a pair of gloves)

In the end he asked me to remind him on Wed, which is today, but I'll never beg him again!! !@^%#&@ So I didn't. And today he just dumped me a message in msn that he'd forgotten the gloves, without any replies whatsoever. I'm very angry.. like real he'd forgotten.. he didn't intend to take for me in the first place!! He's such a bitch, a desperado and a loser! (Sorry I'm just mad) And he's still think he's all that great and clever (please, even though he's always been in the top schools, I don't think he's better than me! He only knows how to memorise! Nerd!) And please, just by the fact that no girls have accepted him before, doesn't it show that he's a loser?

I was so mad that I went to my friend to complain about this yesterday, tell her what kind of lousy guy he is and asking her never to accept him. And she was like, if we both can't stand him, why are we still hanging out with him in class. She asked me to come early tomorrow again and grab his seat so that he won't sit with us. You can be damn sure I'll rush down to class super early tomorrow!! I don't mind being the bad guy, if that's how he treats me, I'm going to treat him the same. I don't know if he's getting back at me for refusing to go out with him during the holidays. But he's not being a gentleman at all, if a guy is interested in a girl, he will treat her friends nicely so that they will help him put a good word. But he's the total opposite man, he has been thinking I'm interfering with them and he has been trying to brush me aside!!

Oh please, judging by my friend's cold attitute towards him, which include blocking him on msn, replying very slow, not replying to his text messages, not going out with him, would he still think he stands a chance? But I have to admit, my friend is much more nicer than me, she will never put him down or be mean to him, that's why he probably thinks he has a chance, but fat hope!

I'll go super early to every lectures from now on, unless he's such a f***king loser than he comes like half an hour earlier just to make sure he sits with her, not me. I'll never do any favours for him again, like lending him my notes, printing notes for him. I'll never go for lunch or dinner with him. I really regret not scolding him on msn yesterday, should I go scold him now, maybe I would, I'm pissed off enough.

Don't mess with me, I can be very bitchy too.. meow~~

a Jumble of Mumbles.

Yo yo blubbie=x


Ooooh.....I've seen your hairstyle...hahahaha...so i guessed right huh.....me likie the Rainie Yang's fringe style=P

Eh the watch got lots of bling bling.....quite cute la.....but errr I think the strap will turn yellow....so just take good care of it by not letting it get touched by water then but err sweat also will cause it to turn yellow right=x....

Miu Miu bag=.='''''''...so expensive!!!!!err....but I have to agree good leather bags are hard to find....

As for your order....I shall conquer the mall this week okay and help you find your beloved goodies=)

I only get off work at 12amT__________T...huhuhu.....but since I was helping out a friend switch shift....so they got me a pair of earrings(i don't have pierced hole...hahaha) and a large authentic baby mickey with wings keychain.....hohoho....since I also helped him by letting him use my gps for thw whole of December for their roadtrip=)

I'm not sure if I should cut china doll bunny fringe or not...seeing that I think long bangs suits me better...

Blubbie....what are we to do....graduating soon....but but have yet to decide what to do!!!!!!should I stay in this country,or try other places.....or do masters!!!!!

One thing is for sure....I am not going to go back to malaysia to find a job yet la...once go back sure stuck there forever.....in a couple of years then.....that meansT_________________T...no man chang kuih, no hokkien mee......no muah cheeT_________________T.....no mumsie and papaT_____________________________T

Singapore...everyone is going there.......so errr go with the flow??????

Haiz..one year of OPT right...might as well try the good ol Melting Pot first then.....

I dowan to do manufacturing...as in foundry.....no way.....so hot so dirty!!!!!

New hairstyle ^^

Blubbss I cut my hair already... turns out that the hairdresser who cut my hair is the si fu of the previous hairdresser who cut that china doll hairstyle for me.. Now my hair is less irritating and it looks thicker ^^ And they charge same price okay.. better ask the sifu to cut than the disciple right... haha

Come come show you my new hairstyle~ Err actually it looks the same when u cut off my hair frm the pic that day la..

Gosh.. I look a little like my sis in this pic =_=

And while roaming around in the shopping mall deciding whether to cut my hair or not.. I bought a t-shirt from sub zero ^^ 50% off... RM27.50 only... heheh

It says "Simple and Sweet".. like me~~!!! And see my sexy toe lol...

ASK ME!

1Q1: 最近这段时间，我发现男朋友和他前任女友一直在密切联系。记得有一次他回家，把电话放在我手里，已经夜里11点了，她打电话过来，我一开始没接，她就一直打，我接了之后她却不说话，后来我问我男朋友，他却只说是一个同学。昨天晚上，我终于在其他地方知道了她就是我猜想中的那个人，就是他的前任女友。之前，他是冒着那个女人要去自杀的风险，硬是跟她分手的。如果他们真的还存在这种暧昧关系，我不可能和他在一起了，但又不希望这是真的。如果这个女人还在纠缠他，我该怎么办？A1: 碰到这种问题你首先要决定你是什么样的女人，最好重温一下《红楼梦》。如果你是个王熙凤，就可以给那个要死要活的前任送两瓶安眠药去，要不再加上一根结实点的绳子，也许你的男朋友就会对你刮目相看。知道你狠得下心，以后再也不敢闹“半夜鸡叫”的事情了。如果你是薛宝钗，你就乐呵呵当着没事，把那前任请回家来玩玩，认个姐姐；你现在这种忧虑的状态好像是奔着林妹妹去了，忍辱负重，扫扫院子，埋埋花儿之类的。王熙凤是跟那个女人作对，薛宝钗是让这个男人为难，林黛玉纯属于跟自己过意不去，你看着办吧。
Q2: 我是多么相信他，相信她是自己一生的所属。可如今她头也不回地离去，仅留下一个理由：她喜欢上别人了。我不停地挽留，却得到这样的答案：她说俩年后给我个机会，而且只有一次机会，我该等她吗？A2: “所属”是什么意思？她又不是你的财产，大活人能“属”来“属”去吗？“属”没了吧！活该！她要你等两年，就是要你“属”给她两年，你也好象不太情愿，怕“属”了半天白“属”一番，是吧。教你一招，你可以口是心非，嘴上说“属”，但是实际上再找找有没有别人，她属于你的时候不就是这么干的嘛，以其人之道还治其人之身。
Q3: 我最近喜欢上了一个女孩子，她看上去很单纯也很漂亮。前几天我和她用短信聊感情这个话题，她说自己没谈过恋爱，不过从我们聊感情时她使用的语言和措辞，又让我觉得她好像是蛮有经理的。当我说相信她没男朋友时，她又说这不用我相信，吃亏只有自己知道。我不知道她是否在骗我？她是否真的有男朋友？我也很想知道她的那句“吃亏只有自己知道”到底是什么寓意？A3: 现如今是人造处女膜时代，你看上去喜欢就可以，什么纯不纯的事情就不要去费脑筋了。至于吃亏这件事情，我倒是有几句话要对你讲，如果你去求爱，她有个男朋友，你吃亏；如果你随便点，就跟她玩玩，她现在的男朋友吃亏；如果她想玩你们两个男人，你们俩谁认真谁吃亏；如果你们两个男人把她玩了，她吃亏她自己知道，对吧。所以她这句话告诉你的就是，不要太认真对她，先玩起来再说。不然，你吃亏只有自己知道。
2Q4: 男人是不是都很花心？怎样才能验证他对自己是否真心呢？有人告诉我男人花心是因为还没遇见自己心爱的女人，是吗？A4: 男人不是都花心，但是花心的男人比不花心的好。理由如下： 1.你至少知道他的确喜欢女人，这是质的问题。我有两个女朋友嫁的男人是同性恋，而且半路出轨，这俩个女朋友很惨，一个自杀，一个疯掉。 2.如果他的花心是量的问题，时间完全可以解决，为了加快速度，你可以劝他多抽烟喝酒，不要锻炼身体，体力不好了，他也就是练练嘴皮子。 3.俗话说：浪子回头金不换。一旦花心男人决定不折腾了，他们是非常靠得住的，因为他们已经见多识广，没有那么容易动情动心。 所以，如果你自以为不是个笨女人，还是找个花心的男人吧。
Q5: 男朋友比我大20岁，是美国人。我以前一直怀疑忘年交，现在却被他深深吸引。但我也面临很大的困扰，他在美国工作，要我大学毕业后就去美国结婚。从感情的角度讲，我很喜欢他，愿意和他结婚，但从其他很多方面，我都不知道这样做是不是正确的选择。如果我嫁给他，以后会后悔吗？我才21岁，23﹑24岁结婚会不会太早？但是我现在也离不开他，即使他在大洋彼岸，我们每天都坚持网上聊天说早安晚安。我不在，他绝对不碰其他女人。他说过很多山盟海誓，我轻易就相信了，但我的朋友说我太幼稚太好骗了。我该坚持这段不被看好的感情吗？A5: 老牛吃嫩草嘛！如果你三十，他五十，没事；你二十，他四十就有点问题，你大学还没毕业，没有什么人生经验，而他总该是有过不少沧桑的人了。建议你还是不要这么着急结婚，总可以再相处一段时间再说。
Q6: 我的好朋友性格豪放，很open。她一直在主动追求一个男生，而那个男生却喜欢上了我。更糟的是，他还告诉了她，现在真的是尴尬极了，我什么都没做过，她却不再信任我了，我该怎么办？A6: 问题不是他们怎么样了，是你喜欢这个男的吗？如果你也喜欢，那你肯定有意识﹑无意识地给他送过秋波；如果你不喜欢，告诉他不就完了。但我的感觉是你其实挺沾沾自喜他选择了你；二是你其实也挺喜欢他，想跟他好的；但是你又不想让你朋友怪你，不想让别人说你比较阴，偷了别人的男人，其实你就是挺阴的，就别装得那么阳光了。
3Q7: 我在电视圈工作将近5年了，最近越发觉得自己已经得了心理ED，在感情上快消磨完了，看见什么样的女孩子都是一样，现在跟别人做爱的时候睁着眼睛都能看见好多以前女朋友的样子，恐怖，每次都草草了事，心里老觉得对不起别人，我竟然不喜欢做爱了，甚至希望以后能找一个性冷淡一点的，可能主要是心理吧，我觉得心理上太乱了。再这样下去我就完了。本人天瓶座，1979年出生。A7: 我不知道ED是什么，但是读完你的信觉得你的确病的不轻。有一点我不明白，你干脆不做爱不就完了，让自己安静一会儿，这不会有人逼着你上床吧？电视圈的女的都这么凶？这人上班觉得没劲还知道辞职呢，哪听说强迫自己做爱，难道你靠这口儿挣钱？
Q8: 我带着8岁的孩子与前妻离婚了，离婚的主要原因是妻子有一份薪水很高的工作，而她那份工作是我妹妹给找的，由于接触的人不一样了，她自然就变心了，但我最不能接受的是，她离婚竟然不要孩子，可能是想着自己的未来。我从来没有听说过哪个女人会不要自己的孩子，每当孩子望着我说：“爸爸，妈妈是不是不要我了？我的眼泪会禁不住落下来。我是不是应该报复她，或让她失去这份工作，我心里很矛盾。A8: 一个女人不要孩子是非常残酷的事情，你最大的责任是保护你的孩子，不要让他/她再受伤害。我特别相信报应，你不用去报复她，放心，她可能在你面前装得无所谓，可是她心里也许非常内疚，而这种感觉最后会把她吞掉，老了她就知道伤心了，你应该带着孩子好好过，往前看。
Q9: 我和相恋10年的男友分手俩年多了，近来听说他要结婚，并且他要娶的就是当年我们分手时的“第三者”。他分手时这个“第三者”还打电话来挑衅说：“我们十年的交往像一张涂烂的纸，不能再继续写下去了，而他们是一张白纸，想怎么写就怎么写。”当年我很痛苦，现在我自己感觉已经走出来了，可听到他们结婚的消息，心里有说不出的感觉。我应该怎样去看待这件事？A9: 你的感觉很正常，建议你把前男友捏个小泥人，拿小针儿乱扎，好好出口气，大不了再找几个贴心女友哭一鼻子，这事就过去了，有时候你就是需要发泄一下，跟排毒养颜一样。
4Q10: 对一个男人来说结婚仅是一种责任吗？我与女友相恋四年了，她说想结婚我感觉是应该的，但现在我一想到结婚这个问题就感觉很无奈，不是我不想负责，可总感觉婚姻中没有什么我想盼望的东西，这种感觉很怪，我不知道自己是否爱她，也不知应该怎样做？A10: 我能把你说的话刻在一小木版上，让所有女人都挂在厨房，时刻提醒自己，不知道什么时候，跟你睡在一个被窝的男人已经不爱你，至少不知道爱不爱你，但是他就是不放你走，一直到他找到能代替你的人，别这样，她想结婚，如果你不愿意，最大气的事情就是让她离开你，找愿意娶她的男人去，社会对女人很现实，跟你过了四年已经是很长的时间了，如果你不娶她也不告诉她，这真是太不公平了。
Q11: 有一个人很会讨人欢心，虽然心里清楚他其实在骗我，还有一个人也在很努力地讨我开心。我相信这个人是可靠的，尽管不喜欢，但我会装作很开心。现在这俩个人都表示希望我做他们的女友，选择谁？A11: 女孩子只要问“该选谁”，就说明她其实哪个都不太中意。好女孩就会寂寞地等待真爱；而坏女孩会兴高采烈地跟不中意的男人打情骂悄，该玩就玩，该吃就吃，该睡就睡。真爱来了好好过，真爱不来也过得不错。你是好女孩还是坏女孩呢？
Q12: 和她在一起差不多有一年半了。在一起的时候，每个礼拜都接来送去，每天必定一个电话。上个月从国外回来，前几天去朋友那里小住了几天，为的就是给她买点东西，因为有时差，所以这几天就没时间给打电话给她。但是她却说，一年多的习惯，你就这么打破了。天知道，我只是为了可以给她多挑点礼物。她还说我不为她着想，她身体不好，又感冒，要吃俩种药，但总是忘，我提醒她，她却说，你为什么事先不提醒我，现在说不是马后炮嘛。哎，我觉得好累。A12: 有一种男人是非常贱的，喜欢被女人折腾，甚至喜欢被女人打。有点像那首民歌里面唱的：“我愿做一只小羊，跟在她身旁，我愿每天她拿着皮鞭不断轻轻打在我身上。”你是有这种倾向的男人，别的不说，能够天天给这么“作”的女人打电话就是一种受虐的表现。所以你不累谁累！这都是你自找的，虽然你现在有点不想再当保姆，但是你的性格已经决定你不给她当奴隶就是给别人当奴隶，逃不掉的。我看你还是认命吧，最多换个更有钱的奴隶主，打完你以后可以给你买个多少克拉钻的脖套把你漂亮地拴在身旁。
5Q13: 她是我的好朋友，我们关系一直很好，但是最近突然觉得感觉变了。或许应了那句话吧，男女之间没有纯洁的友谊。可能这次我的感情发生了质变。但是她好像并没有变，这俩天看到她我已经不像以往那么自然了，平时空下来也会不经意地去想她。想努力地将和她的关系跳出好朋友的范畴，但是不知该从何做起，为此我很郁闷。A13: 如果她一点都没感觉就挺难办的，你要先决定你是做好人，还是做坏人。如果做好人你就要跟她坦白你的感情，如果被她拒绝你也就只好忍着了。如果你当坏人就继续假装她的蓝颜知己，打听出来你是否有情敌，如果有就在法律允许的范围内毁了他，有几个毁几个，最后她肯定是你的。你还可以根据你的生活自编、自导、自演一个电影什么的，总之，你真能当坏人你就出息大了你！
Q14: 她说和我一起的时候，变得很脆弱，常常不开心，因此要和我分手。可我知道她其实也很不舍的。她这俩天常常哭。我想问问怎么样把她哄回来啊？A14: 我觉得她的理由太奇怪了，和你在一起她脆弱是好事啊，谈恋爱的人都很脆弱，要不怎么叫谈恋爱那！你别琢磨怎么哄她，还是好好去了解一下她为什么不开心吧。男人总认为女人是傻子，不去用心了解，而去用力哄，其实男人才是傻子。
Q15: 我已经和他分手了，也不可能再复合了，但是看到有别的男生追她，我的心里还莫名其妙地感到很不舒服。这正常吗？我是不是还喜欢她？A15: 你这问题关键在于“不可能再复合”几个字，如果真的不可能，你不会去想，既然想，就说明还是有可能的。这是你自己要决定的。但是我有个感觉你已经有别的女朋友了，所以说不可能，就是吃着碗里的，想着锅里的。
Q16: 和过去的恋人再次相恋有必要吗？分手已造成伤痛，如何重新面对？A16: 爱情是奢侈品，所以用一次还是用俩次都是不重要的，你看着办吧。
6Q17: “相亲”这俩个字太老土太沉重，实在说不出口啊，主要是第一次，而且又不是单独见面，旁边有数个长辈，不知道如何比较稳妥，请给我点建议吧。A17: 相亲好啊！相亲把主动权放你手里了。你要是想结婚，就象去面试一样表现好些，你要是不想结婚，但又被拉去相亲，就干脆表现坏一点，这样就不用结婚了，至少暂时结不成，相亲可是大机会，千万别错过。 如果想结婚：1. 打扮成投资银行家：不近视也找副金丝边眼镜来。2. 少说话，有问有答，不问不答。3. 最好的礼品是吃的，蛋糕什么的，咱中国人爱吃，打动他们的胃，他们家孩子就是你的人了。 如果不想结婚：1. 打扮成美国嘻哈唱派大师，裤子要露屁股缝，太阳眼镜从头带到底，不要让他们认出你来（这样你想结婚的时候，还有机会）。2. 话不停口，专门说他们听不明白的东西（但是不要有粗口，这太不礼貌了）。3. 到医疗用品商店去买礼品，比如尿壶、轮椅什么的。
Q18: 我是个活泼的女孩子，可不善于表达自己，上初中时我喜欢上了一个人，到现在还是很喜欢，以前我总有过这样的冲动，想告诉他：我已经喜欢你好久了。可出于种种原因，我一直把它埋在了心里。他是我的邻居，以前见面的机会好多，现在他搬走了，我就特别想对他表白了，即使他拒绝了我，反正如今我们住得远，也会让我有点面子吧。A18: 咱不马上就求爱行吗？你先约会一下他，看个电影，吃个饭，喝个咖啡。如果他愿意，你说的时候心里有点谱，如果他根本不愿意，那你也就不用再求爱了。
Q19: 临近毕业了，还没有找到工作，昨天接到家人打来的电话，眼泪都要下来了，我该怎么办？A19: 你是不是太挑剔了？工作不会这么难找吧？先学会生存，然后再改善自己的工作，刚刚进入社会一定要坚强。不能太脆弱了。再苦再累的活也可以先尝试一下，骑着驴找驴比较好。
Q20: 我女朋友为了她的理想打算申请去日本留学，一去就是三年，我不敢想象这么远的距离会对我们的感情造成怎样的伤害，她也很犹豫，我们该怎么办？ A20: 顺其自然吧。得有“坏”的准备，这种长期分手的结果很可能就是吹了，也许你们的感情能承受。但她如果为了你，而不去追求理想，留下来也会有怨气，说不定更容易吹。所以这是挺无奈的事情，只好顺其自然。
7Q21: 前俩天听一位教授说，你爱的人不爱你，这是人类文明无论发展到什么程度都无法解决的事情，是一个人最大的悲哀。我很受震撼。世界上的事情有时候真让人十分无奈。爱情也是一个让人迷茫，甚至失去自我的东西。假如有一天，俩个人在我面前，一个是爱我的人，一个是我爱的人，我该怎么选择呢？A21: 这教授教什么的？这么感慨人生，还提到人类文明的程度。真逗！依我看，之所以人类文明，才会有这种现象，你说那大猩猩做爱会想那么多吗？所以这是文明的结果，是诗歌、文学、音乐等文明象征的源泉，就是人独特的感觉。所以不管是甜酸苦辣，只要你能有感觉就没有脱离文明和人性，没感觉的时候你才是向大猩猩发展去了。最后想说，但愿你那教授不是教文科的，误人子弟。
Q22: 爱她很久了，但在她面前始终手足无措，像一个小孩子一样。她也知道我爱她，特不反对我爱她。最近她发信息说，她现在没有男朋友。我基本上一年后要出国，想谈一年恋爱，然后分手。这样可不可以？A22: 怎么说那，我觉得似乎大家动不动就能说爱这个字，在我看来很新奇，我始终觉得，爱是不能随便出口的。你在出国前希望有个女朋友一起玩，而没有长久计划，这挺能理解，但是绝对跟爱没关系，别把一时的聚会，即使还包括性，与爱混杂。你应该留点神圣的东西给自己，给别人。至于你现在的计划，其实没什么错误，但是，与爱无关。
Q23: 如果真的一直找不到喜欢的人，难道就真的永远不结婚吗？就真的一直像现在一样孤家寡人吗？有时候也许相亲是无奈的选择，但是又能怎么办呢？感觉真的很矛盾。。。。。。A23: 喜欢、性交、爱情、婚姻并不都是一件事情，如果是的话，就不用又这么多字形容这些事情了。如果你对婚姻的要求是必须把这些事情都放在一起，那你的要求非常高，不是说不能达到，但是要有点耐心。而相反来说，有的时候你喜欢一个人，但是并不想结婚，并不说明你们就不能有其它的关系，苛刻最后只是害了你自己，生活就这么流失了。
8Q24: 我是一个很理性的女人，他虽然很关心我，可总是改不掉他的大男子主义，他认为男人是做大事的，事情都应该由他决定！可我也是有自己独立思想的人，当初就是因为我们有着共同的信念才走到了一起，可如今他却不愿意听听我的想法。真的越来越不能忍受他的大男子主义了。A24: 你只要做一件事情，当着他的面在公开场合和一个大快头男人吵架，如果这大男子主义分子挺身而出，愿意为你打架，这说明他性格里面就是条汉子，即使有让你生气的一面，但他也会像个男人那样来捍卫你，如果他不跟大块头打架，那他就一钱不值了，不过一个伪君子。
Q25: 年纪不小了，还没个方向，家人和朋友经常会问：“最近有没有方向啊？”知道他们也是因为关心我，没办法，虽然心里不情愿，可还得应付呀！最难受的是在公司，被当众问这样的事，他们可就是直说的呀：“又大了一岁，要抓紧啦！有方向了吗？”搞的我好像就是嫁不出去似的，郁闷啊！我该怎么办呢？A25: 这事情俩说着，你到底是性生活没方向，还是结婚没方向，这有很大的区别，如果是性生活没方向你早就应该着急了。如果连办公室的人都知道你在床上找不着北，不仅没有任何人献身，而且还在旁边要你“抓紧”，这真是不可思议的事情。如果只是结婚就别着急了，没事，着什么急，一辈子不嫁都没事，只要不耽误生活。
Q26: 我和他认识了4年，在这四年里我们经历了很多风风雨雨，现在的我25岁了，他和我一样大，但是他现在的工资是1000元，我也只有1000元，这点钱叫我们怎么结婚，怎么生孩子啊，他叫我再等他一年，我现在真的很茫然，我还要再等吗？A26: 25岁着什么急，你就是嫌他没钱也不至于现在就着急，你们25岁就想赚大钱，除非撞大运，不然就得先熬一会儿，一般情况下，25岁正是创业的好时候，关键是你们有没有一个好的计划。我家有个如花似玉的亲戚，就像你这么着急，把个心爱的男朋友甩了，找了个更有钱的。五年以后她原来的宝贝上了富豪榜，数一数二的有钱，这美女后悔来不及。本来可以是老板娘，这一瞎着急，只混了个白领婆。
9Q27: 每天都会看你的博客，我的性格也是非常外向的，但遇到事情却没有你那么大气，我已经四十多岁了，却在2001年由于一些事情，与我的同事很自然地走到了一起，但我们都是有家室的。到目前为止，各自的双方都已经知道此事。但为了孩子，为了能在我们这种小地方混下去，我们只有精神地喜欢对方。各自的对方为了颜面，也不提出离婚。因为我们知道自己的过错，所以都忍受着对方的辱骂和毒打，虽然每天都彼此折磨，我们俩还是忍辱负重的生活。我想摆脱，想和他了断，但一时也了断不了。他也是一样。我自己的生活状况是，即使他不离婚，我等孩子考上大学后也要离婚，因为我过的基本上就不是人过的日子。你能给我出个主意吗？我该怎么办？ A27: 我这个人听不得婚姻里面有一方居然敢“辱骂和毒打”，这孙子以为有个外遇他就能动手吗？离，坚决支持你离婚，敢动手打老婆的男人都不是好东西，没教养。孩子固然可怜，但是天天看你们这么不愉快他将来会出心理毛病的，还不如现在就干脆点，人就活一辈子，有些事情是根本不值得忍受的。
Q28: 洪姐，你好！首先，夸您俩句，我确实喜欢你，喜欢你的敢想敢做敢说，痛快利落劲儿！我是个32岁的已婚女子，与老公结婚五年多了，日子由最初的甜蜜逐渐平淡。我认为是爱情转化为亲情的必然现象，就没有过多理会。而老公却突然提出离婚，先说厌倦了婚姻生活，想单身。就在即将要办手续的时候，他被别的女孩的男友打了。他说是个误会，只是对那个女孩有好感而已，什么也没做过。看着他被打的样子，我又心软了。老公说已跟那女孩分手，不再联络。并重新考虑我们之间的事情，一起努力，看能不能回到过去，再决定要不要离婚。洪姐，你说我要不要原谅老公？A28: 你如果还爱他，那原谅不原谅都无所谓，而是看你肚量不肚量——即你能不能让这件事情过去，不提了。再也不去想，俩人好好过日子？还是你会经常唠叨，天天跟踪他的去向。弄的很累，如果是后者，我劝你不要再维持下去，俩个人都会很难受的。
Q29: 我现在27了，迄今为止一个正式的男友都没有交往过，我很纳闷，自己一切健康，相貌过关，也没有同性恋的倾向，只是没有特别的冲动想谈恋爱。现在年纪大了，碍于社会的环境和认知，我还是觉得自己这样不太正常。我是否心理畸形？有办法改变现状吗？A29: 这有什么，不谈就不谈，不要让社会上的舆论左右你自己的生活，我有一个朋友和你一样，既不交男朋友，也不交女朋友，就是没兴趣，原来我们老替他着急，他就笑话我们说：瞧你们一个一个谈恋爱着急的样子，还替别人操心，他其实说得挺对的，谈恋爱的人才着急那！
10Q30: 我的老公在别人眼里是那种有上进心，下班就回家做饭，平时不乱花钱，而且也不花心的模范老公。可我总觉得他有问题。首先他这个人小心眼，遇到些不顺心的事就老跟我发脾气。其次他总是跟我挑三拣四，让我感到自己在各方面都很失败。再有，他很自私，很少站到别人的立场上着想。我感到跟他在一起生活很委屈，我有时真想离开他，但我也舍不得割舍这份感情。我曾经争取过我亲友团意见，但他们都说我对婚姻的期望过高，并且劝我先把自己充实起来，多扩大一下自己的社交圈。但我又不是一个善于交际的人，如果改变我自己也会让我很痛苦。你说我该怎么办？ A30: 找了个两面派啊！有这种人，永远把最坏的一面留给自己最亲近的人，然后拿好脸见外人。我建议你如果不离婚就得学会自娱自乐，等着这男人对你好大概没戏。你可以自己去健身，和女朋友吃饭。多帮你男人花点钱，这一般能治百病。
Q31: 我是一个年近三十的未婚女子，很希望能够遇到一个脾气相合的对象。在一次同学聚会中，我对在外地经商的高中同学产生乐好感。然而他并没有任何意思。就在我打算放弃这段感情的时候，他突然在我面前出现，希望以后在一起培养感情。然而当他离开我后又故态复萌，表现冷淡，甚至跟我说想冷静一段时间。他是不是在欺骗我？A31: 很明显，他不想跟你成家，但是这不是说他对你没感情，没感觉。也许你的非常明显的目的性把他吓着了？如果女人学会不去左右一段情感，不非要有什么结果，就能变得让人更好接触了。
Q32: 我在毕业后的几年，再也没有遇到能让我心动的其他女子。除了前段时间重新遇到大学里的学姐S，她曾经是学校人人瞩目的风云人物，然而现在已经结婚。婚姻生活据我的判断，并不能满足她，否则她不会选择跟我发生关系。过程中她显得亢奋，我觉得自己陷进去了，但她不会离开优秀的丈夫。我说服不了自己放弃，我是否仍有机会夺走她？怎么做才能得到她？A32: 傻孩子，你不是已经得到她了吗？得到和占有是俩个概念，你现在想占有这个女人，但是这真是你应该做的事情吗？就好比你住了一特别漂亮的房子，是你朋友的，你可以白住，但是你非要把房子卖下来，你朋友不卖，难道这房子你就不住了？至少住到你卖了别的房子。
11Q33: 对于风流的男人靠我对他的真心，我对他的感情，感动他，有用吗？难道真的没办法“治”这样的男人吗？A33: 风流男人靠斗智，聪明男人靠调情，老实男人靠撒娇。
Q34: 前一段时间女友突然说，当初和我在一起并不是因为喜欢我，所以现在，她要和我重新开始恋情，真奇怪她怎么会有这样的想法？A34: 我也觉得太奇怪了，你说她要是原来不会喜欢你要跟你吹，这还不合乎逻辑，但是现在说不喜欢还要从头再走一遍，这可是太奇怪了，莫非她最近看了什么《激情燃烧的岁月》之类的电视剧？自己进入了角色了？搞不懂，我现在开始同情男生了，如今的女孩子都那么想入非非的，太奇怪了。
Q35: 在他的猛烈追求下我坠入爱河，也度过了非常美好的一段日子，慢慢发现他什么都跟我留一手，还骑驴找马。我愤怒，要分手，他吃惊过后，居然也很欣然地接受了，然后像水龙头一样，一拧，就什么情都没有了，并且很快有了新的目标，而我呢，就像煽了人一巴掌，人家早不疼了，自己的手还一直疼，心魔啊，开导开导我吧。A35: 我这没有心灵鸡汤，只有恶治。找到他最喜欢的高级餐厅，在他和一群同事或现在女友吃饭的时候，把开水泼他裤裆里，然后转头大声哭泣地逃走，治不了根也让你痛快一回。
Q36: 我和女友分手了，问我她可以做我的干妹妹吗？我能像哥哥一样对她吗？现在每每听到她的声音我都挺难受的。A36: 你这女友够狠的，分了手还不想让你找新女朋友，你的背后有这么一个前女友做干妹妹，哪个女孩会要你？千万别！
12Q37: 我和老公结婚十年了，日子过得平稳和平淡。而我的心里一直深深爱着另外一个男人（离异），他也爱我，我们相约不破坏我的婚姻，而精神恋爱一辈子。这么做我知道不对，可又控制不了去爱他，关心他。我什么都不图，只期望对两个男人都好。我这样能保持一辈子吗？ A37: 打赌吧，你肯定不能保持一辈子，除非你们俩有一个有什么毛病。你还是先想好了要什么吧。真觉得可以这么过一辈子的人都是电视剧看多了。
Q38: 她很优秀，对我也很好，但我没勇气开口，怕连朋友都做不成。因为她，我在自己心里筑起了一道墙，很压抑。我知道这样也不是好办法，但至少这样可以不伤害别人。虽然我知道和她在一起很开心，但我仍然不懂什么是真正爱一个人。A38: 我已经糊涂了，她到底是让你压抑还是让你开心？我看她是让你开心的，但是你自己的脆弱和胆怯却使你郁闷。你在跟自己生气，这跟爱没关系，这跟长大，变得成熟有关系。你要不信就再憋几个月青春痘。
Q39: 我和男朋友恋爱五年了，没有经济能力买房结婚。现在他工作不稳定，我们分居两地。可能因为在一起时间长了，感觉也淡了，有时会想到分手，但没有他又不行。现在父母已经催我们结婚了，我心里好烦。一说起结婚就有点恐惧。我该怎么办，希望你能给点建议。A39: 人说久别如新婚，你俩连这种感觉都找不着就很成问题了。叫我说，还好没结婚。
Q40: 我始终忘不了她，她可爱的大眼睛，她买给我的寿司，只是我一时的气话，我们彼此没有道歉就不了了之。就是因为太年轻，太倔强，才错过了彼此。我好想她，好后悔，两年了，我仍然想着她，我不知道一句迟到的抱歉还能挽回什么吗？A40: 说道歉是应该的，但是不要想挽回什么东西了。你能说道歉说明你成熟了一些，但是这么有“目的”的道歉，说不定会换来失望或者做出不成熟的事情来。
13Q41: 我和老公认识四个月就结婚了，12年了，他从不做饭洗衣打扫屋子。我抱怨过，但他总说“哪儿有那么多活儿可干呀，你干了多少活儿呀”。一想到要这样给他做一辈子保姆，我就绝望。我想离婚，他说我无理取闹，我真的厌倦这种生活了。A41: 回娘家，出走，先别离婚，不做家务不是一个男人最不可容忍的毛病。
Q42: 我认识俩个男人，一个直接告诉我他想要我；一个引导我让我明白他想得到我。直接的人让我感到尴尬，婉转的人让我牵挂。但他们最终的目的是相同的——得到我。我很清楚当他们真的得到我时，我就必须当一切都没发生，我只想和他们保持知己的关系，而不是建立在“性”的基础上。难道我们真的只能到此为止？A42: 你把你自己当什么了？被动得像个吹气性玩具，给这个，给那个，然后还要装成什么都没发生。好好一个有感觉的人为什么非要活得这么刻板，我不明白。
Q43: 两个月前我离开了男友，只身来到另一个城市。起初有一种重回自由的感觉，也很少想他。一开始跟他在一起是因为被感动，以为时间长了会慢慢喜欢上他。但一年的时间过去了，我还是没有爱上他。于是我决定分开半年让对方考虑清楚，也给自己一个重新选择生活的机会！他对我真的很好，现在只身一人在外的我犹豫着，是回到他身边还是独自坚持，直到找到自己真正喜欢的人。是爱情重要？还是生活比较重要？A43: 我家老公特别爱吃炸酱面，直到有一天一个朋友跟他说炸酱面对身体不好，那么多淀粉和油腻，肯定长肥肥。他问朋友吃什么对身体好，朋友说日本饭或者沙拉都可以。他特别坚决地坚持吃了三天生鱼片和兔子草，然后又回去吃他的炸酱面了。你对你的男朋友的态度跟他对炸酱面的态度差不多。这也叫爱情？生活没有爱情也叫生活？
Q44: 今天我离婚了。一直憧憬的幸福生活只持续了一年零四个月，就在顷刻间化为乌有。因为那个曾经爱我爱得不得了的男人有了别的女人，而这一切都发生在短短的一个月之间。在异国他乡我忽然间就无家可归了。我很茫然也很失落，男人都是那么善变的吗？我还能相信爱情相信婚姻吗？A44: 你得这么想，还好才一年零四个月这事就发生了，要是十年零四个月的话会更糟糕。你在国外，正好开始新生活，也许这是一个好事。
14Q45: 跟网友认识不久后，在车里与他发生了第一次关系，完事后我在想，就当什么都没发生吧。哪晓得第二次分开后，理智已不能控制我的想念。却再也联系不上他，我心里窝火极了。事情过去两个星期了，我却还是放不下他。每天工作不积极，很懈怠，没什么方向，知道这样下去对自己不好，可就是控制不了自己，我是不是得了什么心理疾病呀？A45: 这种类似与一夜情的关系真不是每个人都能掌握好的，特别是女的。有的时候你特别想跟男的平起平坐，拿得起，放得下。但是这真是男女不一样的地方，你就算吃一堑长一智吧，知道你自己是把性和情感联系在一起的人，就别在没情感的时候把性先给拽那儿。对你来讲，这俩是一对儿，得双出双进。
Q46: 我对公司的一个男同事产生好感，因为他我决定多留下来半年，让他看到我工作外的另一面——打球、唱歌、跳舞。六月马上到了，我给公司递交了辞呈，试探性邀请他一起吃晚饭，他却拒绝了。我有点灰心，但又有些不甘心。想知道他心里怎么想，但不知道自己应该怎么做。在感情上，我实在是太白痴了。A46: 被拒绝没什么了不起，但是为了一个还没有明朗的暧昧选择工作可真是白痴干的事情。你有他电话吧？你会用手机吧？你就是走了也可以“保持联系”吧？活人可以让尿憋死嘛？真是的！
Q47: 上中学我曾拒绝过一个男孩，后来成了好朋友。毕业几年后的一天他打来了电话说是住院了，想让我去医院看他，可当时不知自己哪根筋不对，他好话说尽，我楞是拒绝了去探望他。很久后，我听消息说他没了。当时人一下子就傻掉了。在之后的日子里我不知道流了多少眼泪。这件事成了我的心病，我恨自己，埋怨自己，好朋友总开导我说不关我事，但我自己却一直很介意，走不出来了，直到现在也没正儿八经的交个男朋友，总觉得也许这是我该为他做的。也知道自己有点过了，可就是解不开这么个结 。A47: 我是向来痛恨那种特别自恋的女孩子，跟男人说完一句话都要检查一下是不是丢了处女膜什么的，生怕别人占便宜，生怕自己吃亏，生怕自己的爱情和处女膜卖不出个好价钱。你的朋友生病你去看一眼时理所当然的，居然能够如此没有人性和同情心也比较少有。所以你比较是罪有应得。再不改邪归正，学得大方一点，再过两年你就成了那种嫁不出去压箱底的女人了。
Q48: 对于风流的男人靠我对他的真心，我对他的感情，感动他，有用吗？难道真的没办法“治”这样的男人吗？有什么好的方法吗？A48: 亲爱的，风流男人专门耍你这种女人，快收山吧。
15Q49: 圈子里多是单身女性，自己条件都不算差，如果有老公，也算是能上能厅堂，下能厨房的人，可能差就差在不太会和男人相处讨他们欢心。想做回妖精，使点小诡计之类的，又发现做不到，矛盾。你说我们改怎么办？ A49: 是不是妖精一般是DNA决定的，不是后天练得出来的。没有妖精DNA而追求妖精经历很简单，去练习一下瑜伽、舞蹈什么的，立刻就知道很多妖精动作，身子骨就立刻软了，就有了妖精形象了。有了妖精形象一般就可以有妖精生活，妖精体验，不一定非要妖精DNA。但是有了妖精生活，你肯定会有妖精麻烦，而你是个假妖精，不会用妖精方式去处理妖精麻烦，那你可就要露原形喽。
Q50: 我跟我男友相处四年了，我已经28岁。我跟他走南闯北，帮助他的事业发展，但是他从来不愿意去见我的父母，也不愿意跟我结婚，无论我表现如何，他一直就是冷漠，逼我发火、逼我主动离开他，但是他就是不主动说让我走人。我现在根本不想跟他结婚，但是心里很不甘。能告诉我应该怎么办吗？离开他，如他所愿？还是违背自己，为了一口气不提分手？A50: 你说是烧死舒服，还一枪把你毙了舒服啊？这不是明摆着，不要跟这么没劲的男人斗劲。
Q51: 我发现男友很喜欢小猫，起初觉得正常，慢慢地我发现我男朋友对他家的小猫特别的亲热，让做女朋友的我看了心里很是别扭。有时候和他父母一起玩牌他总是逗着猫玩，有点心不在焉的。还有的时候他老爱去他妈那屋的床上找小猫一起躺着，让小猫咬他。虽然他对我很好，但我就是觉得这么个男人老爱和猫这么亲密是不是不把我放在眼里啊？让我有失宠的感觉！到底怎么才能让我男朋友对猫减点兴趣，别老这样做，在乎一下我的感受呢？A51: 先问问，至少先搞清楚那是只公猫,还是母猫你再发情吧。嫉妒一只猫，你真好意思。不过我认识一个花花作家，他说他们家如果飞进来一只母苍蝇他老婆都会嫉妒的。
Q52: 我是一个26岁的女孩，爱上了一个有妇之夫，我的一个女友和她母亲知道此事之后，非要我与自己母亲坦白否则她们就告诉我母亲。我母亲身体不好，我很怕她受不了这样的打击。我虽然爱那个人，但是我真的没有破坏他的家庭，为此我还选择了出国留学。再过几天我又将回到国外继续学习，只是我真的不理解她们为什么这样对我？这时我应该怎样做？A52: 你先给你妈打个电话，说你的女朋友有个疯子妈妈，天天要八卦别人，香港《壹周刊》和明星big star上面的八卦新闻有80%是她那里传出来的。但是她得罪人太多，所以明星都不理她了，她开始神经病八卦你了，叫你妈千万别理她。对于这么多管闲事的人只有先下手为强。
16Q53: 和女友分手是因为我没能给她一个明确的未来。后来才发现，其实给她幸福的明天不是很难，只是因我的不负责任搁浅了。离开之后，我感到好孤苦，我开始害怕没有她的夜晚。我寝食难安，我不知道该怎么去挽回她。现在的她一直在逃避我，从不给我机会向她表白我的真情。难道我就只能这样看着她远离我？为什么不能给我信心让我去给她一个明媚的未来？？我难受得快要死去，我该怎么办？A53: 等你该掏钱买哪个多少多少卡拉德订婚戒指的时候，你那些孤独的夜晚就突然变得没那么可怕了。给她幸福的明天不可怕，但是我觉得你更喜欢给她幸福的夜晚，不太想给她幸福的白天。是吧？也许她对你的嗜好比你更清楚，所以才躲着你。
Q54: 我认识一个男孩，从某种意义上他算是我的男朋友，但他对我忽冷忽热，让我把握不住；而我身边还有一个对我殷勤有加的男生，我有时候真的很想对男友说如果你有他一半体贴就好了，可我又觉得这样的比较不公平，我不知道应该是选我喜欢的那个还是选喜欢我的那个，如果是你会怎么做？A54: 接着找吧，喜欢你的那个和你喜欢的那个最好是一个人。至于现在你身边这两块料你应该当着你喜欢的那个对喜欢你的那个特别好，如果他无动于衷你就知道你白喜欢他了，而说不定你会越来越喜欢喜欢你的那个。生活总是有惊喜等着你。
Q55: 我26岁了，有过两个工作能力很强的男朋友，但我只希望每天快快乐乐过日子，所以他们最后都因为我不够能干，在事业上对他们帮助不大而离开了我。我很痛苦，想知道能干的女人和不能干的女人究竟那种比较容易得到幸福呢？希望女人聪明能干的男人，是不是本身就说明他们对自己不自信呢？这样的男人我还应该留恋么？A55: 那你就找跟你一样只想快快乐乐过日子的男孩子不就完了，还是你更愿意要那种特聪明能干的?因为你对自己不自信!
17Q56: 我二十出头，长得不出众，还没有过正式的男友。其实我性格挺好的。男性朋友不少，闺蜜更多，几乎天天有局。但就是落得这么一个形单影只的下场，和那些有男友的闺蜜聊天，自觉得我和他们的差别是缺乏显著的女人味。另外，我觉得和我年龄相仿的男孩都特幼稚，只有30岁以上的男人我能心动。老洪呀，教教我该怎么做，打扮淑女点？说话妖娆点？A56: 听起来跟我二十出头时候的感觉差不多，没事。但是你不能老是一帮人集体活动，你的男性朋友里面肯定有喜欢你的，也有你喜欢的，但是你得给自己创造点单独接触的机会。告你一招，你约他时候就说是三个人吃饭，最后让你一个比较好的女友找个借口，别出现就可以了。因为你如果上来就邀请他一个人吃饭，他可能觉得唐突，但是三人变成二人不是老天安排的嘛，当然老天是在你的指点下安排的。
Q57: 我30，女，一直没交朋友，因为比较挑剔。去年12月，我和他在网上认识，我们都感觉相见恨晚。一开始我觉得网络不可信，于是就提出做普通朋友。他很痛苦，就在那时他找到了一直喜欢他的学妹，美籍日本人，合伙开了个公司。他占股份的45%，并同时有了个约定：除非他不结婚，否则新娘一定是那个日本女孩。可后来我们又在一起了。如今那个日本女孩闹了，精神也不太好，我们都不知道怎么办了。我好难受，也替日本女孩难受，我现在好困惑，姐姐能告诉我该怎么办吗？谢谢了！A57: 你们怎么把生活当作电视剧演戏一样，搞得这么戏剧化！你这男友也够傻的，人都卖给日美人了，股份才拿到45%，是不会算数还是怎么着？！现在怎么办？电视剧该杀青啦！公司给日美人，把人赎回来呗。莫非你还想演续集？
Q58: 我和老公认识4个月就结婚了。12年了，他从不做饭洗衣屋子，我现在干烦了。打过很多架，各种方法都试过了，他始终一句话“哪儿有那么多活儿可干呀，你干了多少活儿呀”。一想到就这样给他做一辈子保姆，我就绝望。我不奢求多么富贵的生活，我们也不富有。但我也有很多事要做，要工作，要学习，还要照顾孩子。我们的性生活也没让我感到有多大乐趣，纯粹义务型的。我想离婚，他说我无理取闹。我真的厌倦这种生活了，姐姐你给回答一下吧，谢谢。A58: 我听人家说，像你这样的夫妻关系，多半性生活特别幸福，特别是女方，要不然，不会心甘情愿地扛这么多年的家务活儿。没这么一说的话，我会劝你出走，回娘家。但是因为有这么一说，我怕你扛不住，别大半夜想了又溜回去，那可就前功尽弃了。这么说吧，如果你床上是特别幸福，你就认做保姆吧，估计一般女人到这份上已经没太大出息了。如果不是的话，那就好好教训他一回。
Q59: 老想着一个人，虽然没到魂牵梦绕的程度，但是绝对妨碍了我实现天天快乐的理想，怎么办？现状是：1.我已经结婚了，他是单身。2.我还没想过离婚。3.他说他喜欢我，我也喜欢他——属一见钟情那种。4.他不经常联系我，我也不主动联系他——宁愿坐以待毙，也不想自掘坟墓。5.想把手机砸了，（不，应该是把SIM卡撅了）断了彼此联系的念想，但做不到。让您大脑受累了，多谢！！A59: 听起来你是非常想出轨了，那就出吧，当心点就是。
18Q60: 俺最近被个风流成性的公司老总盯上了。自知不是“对手”，可似乎我越躲人家越来劲儿了！气，又惹不得！怎么才能恶心他一把出口恶气？当然，芙蓉姐姐的招数就算了，我还蛮要脸面的…… 谢谢点拨！A60: 嘿，我有个女朋友也曾经被一个风流老总盯上，而且明目张胆地提出来要和她上床，她回答道：“可以啊，但是我还有三个男友现在也跟我睡，你没事儿吧。”这老总再也没找她。除了这个之外，我还替你想了两个：“咱下周吧，我的艾兹病检验结果这周五就好了。“好啊，我男朋友可以在旁边看吗？
Q61: 谈女朋友（她一直经商，我在打工），她买房了。认识6年，在家乡认识的，以前我们是普通朋友，一直保持联系，今年她发消息给我；然后我们正式谈朋友了，快3个月了。现我们有矛盾，我认为有物质不一定过得很开心，她说她不想再谈什么恋爱，她说，要么结婚，要么分手。谈朋友3天，她就表明了，房产是要公证的，我也认为该如此，（第15天，我们就睡了）她说，我还对你不够好吗？我想多了解一下，不急于一时；想交往1年后再谈婚事。现在是“冷”下来，还是继续“热恋”，或按她所说结婚呢？A61: 不要以脱裤子的速度去结婚。就是她想以脱裤子的速度结婚你也把裤腰带死死扣好，这样对你们俩都有好处。
Q62: 我结婚刚4个月。在之前一次恋爱中投入太多了，分手后有点像行尸走肉。随后相亲认识了现在的老公，他各方面都挺不错，也门当户对，相处1年就结婚了。婚后他工作紧张，我们过得非常平淡，连亲热都很少。几个月来睡在一张床上，却觉得他越来越陌生，感觉从来没有心动爱上他，他也并不了解我的内心，也就是个陌生的熟人。这个婚姻不能带动我积极的一面，我的状态也越来越差。我觉得我的婚结得太不真诚了。心里苦闷矛盾。A62: 听起来你现在还是行尸走肉，对着镜子狠狠抽自己几个嘴巴，怎么能做这么对不起自己也对不起别人的事情。
Q63: 我为了一个男人离婚了，而现在有了他的孩子他又离开了，孩子5个月了，不能做人流只能做引产了，我很想要孩子，但是面临的实际的一些困难还有孩子以后没有一个完整的家，周围的朋友都建议不要孩子，可是孩子每天都在我肚子里头动，我实在下不了手啊。洪姐，你能帮帮我么？多谢。A63: 我认识几个单身妈妈，她们都不容易，但是都闯过来了。有很多非常难办的事情，比如去医院检查，孩子上户口，大了上学，说实话需要一些经济条件，如果你的条件还可以，我当然非常支持你当妈妈。
19Q64: 我去年认识个警察，他约我出来和朋友一起吃饭，我喝多了，迷迷糊糊地他就拉着我去开了房间疯狂了一次。我不可救药地喜欢上了他，可他的态度却不明朗。其实我心里想要的是幸福的家庭和一个暧昧的情人，我一边觉得他是有点趁人之危，一边又渴望和他在一起。我该怎么办啊？A64: 不错啊，跟警察叔叔勾搭上了！先干点实在的事情吧，周围有没有朋友要搞定交通罚单的？实在没有帮我把几个票消掉，拜托，摆脱啦。把我的事情搞定之后，我看你还是结束这段“危险关系”吧，一般男人都不会跟他头一次约会就上床的女人白头到老的，记住这一点，要想暧昧就得把裤腰带再勒紧点儿。
Q65: 最近七八天，我的朋友和一个他喜欢的女孩子每天晚上都短信联系，只是那个女孩子每次回得都比较慢，要过十来分钟才能回上一条，好像有点不耐烦的样子。而且那女孩子说过好几次身边的男人追求她的事情，说自己也被弄得很烦。我朋友是上世纪80年代初生人，而那个女生是80年代中生代，他们现在的交往到底有没有深入发展的可能性啊？A65: 当然有！听说过PHONE SEX吗？就是两个人在电话上一边讲脏话一边自慰，短信当然更有挑战性，手更忙些，大概小学拼音水平就够用了。
Q66: 15年前，家长把早恋的我们分开。现在我已嫁人生女，他又来找我，央求我跟他走。我已经享受稳定的生活不可能跟他流浪，他却逼我，要挟会毁了我的一切。想到多年前他的话：我得不到的别人也别想得到！A66: 告诉你丈夫，让他保护你和你的家庭。实在不行就找民警吧，那句话怎么说的来着：有问题，找民警。
Q67: 姐与姐夫相亲结识，今年春节闪电结婚。但是婚后发现姐夫在外面女人很多还一直都有联系。现在她已怀孕五个多月，却整天寝食难安养不好身子。她劝说不动姐夫，又放弃不了。晃姨，您能帮我想想怎样帮她获得幸福吗？A67: 先安安静静把孩子生下来，等坐完月子，你姐夫在外面跟别的女人混的时候，去她家里帮她把地契约、房产证、银行存折都收拾好了，化悲痛为力量吧。
Q68: 因为前男友花心分手，半年了我却仍然没有走出阴影。已经25岁的我对别人还是很难接受。我很想离开成都,到北京换个环境重新生活，可又还希望他回头。洪姐,我是不是很犯贱?救救我.A68: 嗷！我的上帝！你都25岁啦！亲爱的，25岁没痛苦就是没生活，学会享受你的痛苦，也许你同时也就学会生活。
20Q69: 最近我发现放在办公室的存折里近两千元不见了！后来男友坦白因为出差掉了公司五千块备用金才不得已拿了我的钱。现在我要他证明自己能交备用金，但本来我就看中他品性好，不知这次他办到后我又能否释怀？A69: 他的品性没什么不好，他告诉你是他拿了，就说明他的品性已经高过一般人了。给他一次机会。
Q70: 我有一个几乎十全十美的女友，现在和男朋友在外同居。可是那男生过度看紧了她，因为她与别的男生说话都会遭辱骂，有时还连同她的家人。他们甚至还对打过。伤心的她该怎么办呢？A70: 打得过的话就把这男的好好揍一顿，打不过就算了，吹灯拔蜡吧，三十六计走为上计。
Q71: 我28岁了还没恋爱过。后因工作常和上司接触，彼此志趣相投渐渐暧昧起来。他有妻女，我觉得负罪。我刚跳槽时我们还常联系，后来他就不回消息了。现在我只想和他做朋友，可他这样对我我该怎么办呢？A71: 我觉得你下意识里想再勾引他一回，测试一下你的魅力，或者你想证实一下你们当时的关系是平等的，是情人，而不是你自己不知道怎么跟老板说“no”。一边说负罪，一边说当朋友是很虚伪的事情。如果你想有你自己的生活，拜托，就别装孙子当前老板加情人的朋友了。
Q72: 丈夫总抱怨家里冷清，也从不管孩子，在家几乎没开心笑过。我们的性生活已很少。.我给他暗示，他也总躲进工作。我想放弃他又不同意。我似乎再也爱不上别人了，于是只能继续这样缺憾着的生活。A72: 你能给他一两个微笑的理由吗？也许不是他不会笑，是他真的没什么可笑的。
Q73: 婚前老公的前女友就不停地纠缠，但他还是选择我，给了我一个漂亮的婚礼。婚后她还不肯放弃，每天短信不下百条，还找上家来，该怎么处理呢？A73: 这不是你的问题，是你老公的。让他处理去。
21Q74: 我是一个两岁宝宝的妈妈们，他要求我尽量打扮得让他带出去脸上有光。不知是否我太敏感，总认为他对我根本没有真心，我曾问他，我们有爱情吗？他说明天，为此我心灰意冷。这对我的孩子很不公平。我闹过，结婚证也给我扯得粉碎。可是他不同意。我心底总在担心他会另结新欢。我该怎么办？A74: 说实话，你男人要求你多打扮一下没什么了不起的，所有男人都差不多，至于你们没有爱情是另外一回事情，但是好多没有爱情有孩子的婚姻还是行得通。
Q75: 我三十，女，一直没交朋友，因为比较挑剔。去年12月，我和他在网上认识，我们都感觉相见恨晚。一开始我觉得网络不可信，于是就提出做普通朋友。他很痛苦，就在那时他找到了一直喜欢他的学妹，美籍日本人，合伙开了个公司。他占45%股份，同时有了个约定，除非他不结婚，否则新娘一定是那个日本女孩。可后来我们又在一起了。如今那个日本女孩闹了，我们该怎么办？A75: 你们怎么把生活当作电视剧演戏一样，搞得这么戏剧化！你这男友也够傻的，人都卖给日本人了，股份还拿的不多，是不会算数还是怎么着？现在怎么办？电视剧该杀青啦！公司给日本人，把人赎回来呗。莫非你还想演续集？
Q76: 我们互有好感。我表白后他很犹豫，认为我属于想结婚的那种而他不是。我告诉他我只是想确定男女朋友关系，他同意了。但我询问公开时他又反问要不要再多了解他点。我喜欢他可不知道接下去怎么办？A76: 你只是他“好感”之一，但不是唯一。你俩成双成对的出入，万一碰见他的另外一个“好感” 不是挺麻烦吗？你如果能接受，就把他也当成你的好感之一吧。
Q77: 他追我的时候很真挚，因为感到他是个好男人，我接受了并表达出我对他的喜欢。可随后他就变冷淡了。他说受过伤害，对感情又渴望又害怕。但难道这就是原因？那又为何追我？我想放弃可又喜欢他，怎么办？A77: 这话很难启齿……也许他对自己做爱的功能缺乏信心？怕关键时刻掉链子？
22Q78: 我今年29了，也谈了几个男朋友，但都分手了，大部分是我提出来的，我总感觉那不是我要的生活。但是看到以前的男友和别的女人在一起了我心里又特别难受，这时候我自己都狠自己，但如果让我再选择我还是会和他分手，这是怎么回事？A78: 因为你不知道你要什么样的生活。建议你多看书，少看电视剧，一般电视和碟看多了，都有你这毛病。
Q79: 我和他相识在交友网上，见面后感觉很好，当天就决定交往下去。相识后的第三天，一起吃饭后他送我回家。一到我家就抱住了我，我没有拒绝他，任由他摆布。不过，我们没有发生那种关系，因为我在例假期间。第四天，我胃痛，他就买了一些水果过来陪我聊了聊天。第五天他就出差了，从此音信全无。接下来的一个月，我发了好多短信和邮件给他，希望找回自己的感情，但没有得到任何回应。我真的好迷茫，我该怎么办？请你帮帮我！A79: 才这么几天，我看就算了吧。以后你回顾这段情，将是很有意思的一段未完成的艳遇。说不定三十年以后再遇到，如果还有感觉，那时候再完成也挺有意思的。
Q80: 我喜欢的男人常常周末关机找不到人，平时打电话给他会说自己很忙明天再打给我，结果却石沉大海，从不上网和我聊天，让他办的事情总是一拖再拖然后杳无音信。有几次真的一狠心把他电话号码删了发誓永远不要再跟他联系了。结果还是不甘心，他发的那些看似誓言的短信我一直没有删，总觉得他也许会是我的幸福。再这样下去也许我就崩溃了，我不知道还有多少时间来等待。A80: 别瞎删电话号码了，那不管用。把这人删了还差不多。
Q81: 一个男人在女朋友不在同一个城市的时候，频繁地找一夜情。这样的人还要抱什么希望呢？为什么一定要时时追求那片刻的欢娱，不找会死吗？一个看似优秀的知识分子也要步上这样的歧途。这种人能结婚吗？A81: 你就一句话是明白话：看似优秀。在我们社会里，看似优秀的人特别多，我也不知道为什么，而且女人特别容易上“看似优秀”的当。
Q82: 我和我老公结婚13年，在一起生活快5年了，以前分居。现在看见他就觉得很烦，不知道什么时候会离婚。当然个性有差异，架打了无数，感情伤成了负数，想起来就咬牙切齿狠不得碎了他，觉得越过自己吃亏越多。你说是快刀斩乱麻还是忍一时之气，梦想着海阔天空？A82: 你那海阔天空得哪辈子的事情啊？人可就这么几年好活的，没那么多时间可以浪费。
23Q83: 我和老公结婚近十年。可是这十年的婚姻留给我的更多的是一种痛苦和折磨。蛮横无理，无休止的骂，甚至是动用拳脚。。。。。。不堪回首啊！我老公是我的初恋情人，我对他绝对的忠诚，可是他对我却疑心，跟踪我。我和他是同事，共同赚钱，共同养家，可他总说压力大，时不时找我发泄，打骂，时间久了便成了习惯。我实在受不了，提出离婚，可他不肯，说如果离了，就要杀了我。我恐惧，痛苦。。。。。。（离开他的话我有能力自己带孩子），我该怎么办？ A83: 你应该找一个能够保护你的机构，这种男人一定要摆脱。但是要小心，不要让他再对你有任何伤害，我觉得你可以先回你父母那里。你打听一下，应该有那种组织，帮助家庭暴力的受害者的。
Q84: 我今年24岁了，可是从来没谈过朋友，高中时没想过，大学时上师范，周围男生很少，现在工作了还是一样，整天接触到的男生还是很少。我现在都怀疑还能不能找到男朋友。周围有同学给介绍，他们都挺有钱的。可就是太难看了，自己没感觉，所以见了一面就再也没下文了。自己没什么机会认识，朋友介绍的又都不太感冒，我现在很矛盾，该怎么办？A84: 好象有些书教你怎么做，比如去一些漂亮人喜欢去的酒吧，参加点什么社交组织。我也不太知道你这种对钱和相貌这么敏感的孩子该怎么办，你慢慢挑吧。要我吧，看见性格好的就可以了。
Q85: 男朋友出国读书了，我很想他，男朋友的妈妈建议我到国外去工作，也可以和他在一起，等过俩年他毕业了再一起回家来。您觉得呢？我现在的工作也不是很好，有点想去，可是一个人出去又有点害怕，而且不知道能不能挣到钱或者学到什么东西，怕把自己的这两年给荒废了，我该怎么办啊？姐姐！A85: 你可以考虑去找他，尽管环境陌生，但是毕竟有你男朋友在那里，有时候，这种相依相恋的感觉会挺好的。
Q86: 和相处俩年的已婚情人冲动分手已经一个月了，没有任何联系。但我们都知道事情远未结束。我真的很爱他，不想放弃。而他却在遥遥无期地等待父母对离婚的认同，坚持着不要孩子，但他也说绝不会先斩后奏，所以也没给我未来的承诺。我现在一个人茫然地等待着，异常痛苦和嫉妒！姐姐，能帮我出个狠招，早日把他抢到手吗？A86: 怎么就会有这么多女人去抢别人的男人？单身男人都死光了？听起来你爱上的男人像个面瓜，离个婚还得父母同意，也像个混蛋，居然坚持不要孩子！所以我的感觉是这人不值得，但是如果你非要狠抢就动刀吧，晃悠一下，足够让这种耸人吓破胆。
24Q87: 晃姐，如果有人特爱你，他的行为打动了你，你也动心了，可他没有房子不稳定的工作，但这个人正直，勤劳，你们之间无论是学历还是家境都相差很远，可你的父母希望你找个有稳定工作收入高一点有房子的人，他们一直在给你介绍对象。现在，那些对象里有人愿意和你交往一下，你对他并不是很讨厌可也说不上喜欢，现在你必须要选择一个，该怎么办？A87: 我从来不让父母给我挑男朋友，一般他们看上的我都看不上。我也从来不考虑经济问题，因为我是找人，不是找钱。
Q88: 我和前夫结婚一年后，他出轨追求一个丰满性感的女人，我发现后，我们离婚了。离婚后他一直不间断地找各种借口和我联系，我坚持了半年，最终还是同意和他见面，吃饭；我搞不懂对他什么感觉，觉得和他在一起没有安全感，我们就这样每周见面，我理解不了自己是不是因为太寂寞，还是对他有感情，我不知道未来何去何从。A88: 出轨有两个定义：在宽容女人那里，：“心未动，身已远”不算出轨；在一般女人那里，身未动，心远一下也就算了，你可算是比较厉害的，人家就是追求一下，啥事都没干，你也把人家休了。不过你对人对己都很苛刻，严格要求，这也不容易，可以说是以身作则了，你应该当国家干部去。我不太敢给你提建议，因为你好像是个很认真的人，唯一的建议就是别这么认真行吗？
Q89: 我是个学艺术的女生，我的思想是很前卫的，可以接受很多大胆的东西，可我的身体却还是保守。以前男朋友总会提出进一步的要求，但我总能抵挡住最后一道防线。随着年龄的增长，我发现自己越来越多地把身体当作以后嫁个好男人的本钱。不管心灵怎么样，毕竟身体还是干净的。甚至会想如果男朋友在结婚的时候发现我还是个处女也许会加倍地珍惜我。我知道这想法挺幼稚的，想听听你的建议。A89: 我太喜欢你这句话了：“不管心灵怎么样，身体还是干净的。”哈哈。真是时代不同了，我那辈的人一直以为，心灵干净点儿更重要。心里脏脏的处女这还真是挺少的。
Q90: 我和我现在男朋友在一起快两年了，我甚至可以为他放弃自己的生命！他是一个很花心的男人，也很有钱，已经有两个老婆，两个孩子了，为了他，我放弃自己的工作，放弃尊严，跟着他。有时候，他在外面跟别的女人怎么样了还会回来说给我听，还不许我不开心。在他面前，我真是完全没有脾气，我现在不知道该怎么办？A90: 亲爱的，没人告诉你嘛，你已经牺牲了！中国历史上有很多烈女，你这大概也能进个什么传，但是别的烈女都是为个什么忠啊，孝啊，党啊，国啊啥的，像你这样为个畜生当烈女我还是头一次听说。
25Q91: 我的朋友刚经历完一段婚外情。她是第三者那个，未果。现在和另一个男孩交往，她自己心里明白对这个男孩并非是喜欢或者爱，只是希望自己一个人的时候能有个人在身边陪着。相处一个月下来，各方面都证明他们不合适，但是女孩怕说分手会伤害对方，因为那个男的是挺认真的那种，她不想伤害他，但是这么交往自己也的确很累……她该怎样呢？A91: 看来你的朋友一定是个比较笨的女人，至少不爱动脑子。先是给人家当第三者，免费性工作者服务一回；然后又和自己不喜欢的人在一起，还口口声声说不分开是怕伤害。算了吧，不分是怕晚上一个人在被窝里睡不着，至于伤害，难道现在这种欺骗就不是伤害吗？
Q92: 我觉得现在好男人都被人抢走了。虽然以前交往过几个男友，但是性格不合。也曾谈婚论嫁，但最后也散了。眼看飘荡在这个城市，找不到心仪的人。自己处在一个高不成低不就的地位，也希望对方能够对文艺有一点爱好。可是往往圈子里的人要么就是gay，要么就不靠谱，要么就已经是别人的了。父母经常给我施加压力，岁数也不太小了。我很苦恼，不知道怎么办才好。而且身边的情侣经常告诉我一些秘密，我感觉他们也不是那么的幸福。对于找到另一半结婚这件事我已经失望了。A92: 就冲你这么自恋，碰见好的也吓跑了。醒醒觉，姐们，都二十一世纪了，象你这样抱怨没男人可找的女人和处女一样不吃香。
Q93: 我和我女朋友相处一年了，她年纪比较小，刚23岁。我们一直处于精神恋爱阶段，每次我想进一步的时候她就翻脸。我问她为什么，她跟我说：如果一个男人可以两年都不碰他女朋友的身体，但是一直爱她对她好的话那就是真的爱她。我真不知道这是什么理论啊！可是晚上她还要我搂她睡觉，这……我也是个男人啊！A93: 那你跟她商量一下，能不能先去妓院解决一下生理问题，然后再回来爱她，搂着睡觉，这样你能保证肯本碰都不想碰她。你怎么喜欢一个老大不小不会做爱的女人，这不是找了一个不会拉磨得驴子差不多？冤不冤？
Q94: 我男朋友比我大一倍，他是个很有学识的男人。但是他有家。这也不是问题所在，他是愿意和我在一起的，他说只要我说我嫁他，他就立刻离婚和我结婚。可是你知道吗，我和他在一起的时候，他上初中的女儿总是给他发短信说“爸爸我好爱你，不要离开我和妈妈”这样的的话，我看见了心里很难过，感觉自己是个罪人。我想和他分手又舍不得，想和他在一起又觉得对不起他的孩子。我心里矛盾得要死了。A94: 你就是今天跟他分手也还是罪人，因为明显，你已经在她的女儿幼小的心灵上留下了不可磨灭的伤痕。现在的问题是你想当快乐的，光明磊落的,有罪的,老男人的小媳妇，还是接着当矛盾的，偷偷摸摸的,还是有罪的,老男人的小姘头？
Q95: 我以前总是把爱情奉若神明，看得无比神圣，为了自己喜欢的男人情愿付出一切，我曾经认为两个人只要感情好，就没有度不了的难关。每一次我都会全心全意地投入，每一次都是以我的遍体鳞伤结局。是我遇不上自己想象的爱情，还是爱情原本就是这样的？A95: 如果我是你，就不要回头。爱情是神圣的，有投入，有欢乐，有悲伤，有失望，比谨慎小心过一辈子要值得，因为爱情如果不是生命的一部分，生命本身就要打折扣的。我坚决相信这一点。所以接着爱下去，不要回头。不过话又说回来，找点好的去爱啊，别见一个爱一个。那也受不了,你稍微挑剔点,行吗?
Q96: 我今年26岁，还没有男朋友。几个月前，邻居给我介绍了一个在外地当兵的男孩子。我们从来没有见过面，只是见过彼此的照片而已。通了几次电话，感觉还不错，现在我们每天就靠短信和电话联系，他属于那种极其不善于表达的人，每次说话总是吞吞吐吐，所以现在我们的关系还没有更进一步发展。我是要等他向我表达，还是我自己主动，还是等我们见面进一步了解之后再确定这种关系呢？A96: 如果你已经知道他不善于表达，还在那里等着他表达，这是不是有点不太符合逻辑啊？比较拧巴。
Q97: 我现在的女朋友比我小5岁，对我很依赖，总是喜欢像个孩子一样让我宠着她。其实我想找一个成熟有主见的女孩子做我的另一半。我是要等到我的小女孩长成熟女，还是现在和她分手？如果我和她分手，她会因为想不开而寻短见呢？A97: 这得看你女朋友到底多大岁数.如果她真的很嫩,比如是个16岁以下的女孩,那你就犯法啦!那就是个小女孩! 你赶紧自首去。据说有些LOLITA还是等老情人出狱的。如果你女朋友16岁以上，那你没犯罪，但是如果你等她改性格，你的日子比蹲监狱还难受。你还不如干脆换个LOLITA。看着办吧。
Q98: 我曾经很想结婚，可是现在婚后的生活怎么完全不是我想象的样子呢？我老公好像神经质一样地管着我。翻我的短信，看我的邮件这种事情就不说了，我出去和同事聚会他势必每半小时打一次电话问候我。有一次我想那就带着他一起去吧，他还假装不去，他不是知道我去哪吗？然后他就貌似巧遇一样在那个聚会餐馆一样碰到我们。我当时真不知道说什么了。他这样下去我觉得我们俩都会疯掉的。A98: 你怎么给你自己找一个终身监视人啊？你如果还没有疯掉，赶紧离婚吧。
Q99: 曾经交过一个男朋友，在一起两年多，最后因为他的出轨使我们分手，令我非常痛苦，因为我们在一起的过程让我第1次相信有缘分这东西，这两年里他背着我找过三个女孩子，我都原谅了他，但是最终还是让我彻底失望了。分手之后就没怎么联系过，但这个伤口如影随行，我总是能想起他，想起我们在一起的点点滴滴，身边的朋友有时会不经意地告诉我他的一些近况，这些话总能第1时间牵动我的心，也有朋友劝我去找他见面，说不然我这个心病永远都好不了，我该怎么办啊？活在回忆里的日子实在太痛苦了。A99: 这样吧，换个角色，要不你当他现在的外遇算了，他肯定有女朋友，你就当那当年的“第四个”。
Q100: 我前男友总是把他和他现在女朋友的情感问题拿来问我，还老半夜打电话，一叨叨就没个完。一开始我还挺耐心的，可他老这样，我真受不了了！以前对他还有点旧情，现在是彻底没了，我感觉这个男人丫就是没大脑！我要是跟他说你坚持吧，他就又问我怎么坚持啊，要是劝他分手他就会觉得我还想和他和好！在一起的时候没少折磨我，怎么分了手还继续折磨我！A100: 哎呀，这不是老天送给你的报复机会嘛！给他出馊主意啊！折磨他啊！你可以让他去又贵又不好吃的餐厅（需要<<乐>>的指点尽管说话，我们有一堆）；让他买最不值的礼物，看最难看的电影，等等。千万不要失去这种好机会！
26Q101: 我有一个好姐妹儿，各方面都很好。可是都24了从来没谈恋爱。一方面是因为太内向，还有就是死心眼。她从高一就暗恋一个男孩子，一直到现在都放不下，还不肯表白。听到那个男孩子的消息就大哭一场，我们这些朋友要帮她去说她又不让。还一喝酒就哭，边哭边念叨那个男的。而且那个人现在好像已经有女朋友了。我们这些朋友都不知道怎么帮她好了A101: 听得好像是得了“琼瑶后遗症”：——就是非要把自己整成跟小说里的人物，要是她爱谁，谁也爱她生活就没有戏剧性了。这病还不太好治。只有恶治，让她清醒地发现生命的宝贵性，比如带她去蹦极是个好办法。
Q102: 从上次分手到现在半年多了，不是不想找新的，但就是对谁都提不起兴趣，不知道算不算是疲惫期。总有种不甘心的感觉。一个人寂寞的时候希望有个人能陪，真的设想要找一个人的时候又很担心被人约束，很害怕心里总惦记着一个人的感觉。到底我该不该开始一段新的感情呢？我这样的心理是不是还放不下过去啊？A102: 才歇了半年就开始怀疑自己了？这可真是跟小孩差不多——好动。感情没有开关，说开始就开始，有点时间给自己是好事。
Q103: 同学已经有一个交往8年的男朋友了，最近关系很淡。她在新的单位和一个男人发生关系了，目前处在脚踩两条船的状态下。那个男人在所有人看来就是玩她，目的是为了黑公司的钱，因为我同学是个会计，而且已经黑了一小笔了。我的同学也很痛苦，不能原谅自己背叛的行为，却又把持不住自己要见那个男人的欲望。她也知道那个男的对她没感情，她现在该怎么做才能彻底离开那个男人？A103: 你同学是个白痴+花痴，应该用我们根本不能白纸黑字写出来的语言臭骂她一顿，让她立刻悬崖勒马，不然就晚了。那个什么交往8年的先不管，先把这条缠在身边的毒蛇给搞掉。
Q104: 我现任男友是个有家室的男人。他和老婆关系一直很冷淡，他说认识我以后觉得自己的生活才又有了乐趣。他这个人也是有知识有涵养的，在社会上有地位，对我也很好，两个人在一起的时候什么都不让我做。他跟我许诺说2009年就离婚和我在一起。可最近问他结婚的问题他总是吞吞吐吐。问他是不是讨厌我了他也不回答。我有些不安了，我该相信他吗？A104: 傻丫头，没地位，没知识，没涵养，怎么骗你这样的女孩子，北京奥运会等了五十多年，2008都要办了，你倒好，办了这么多年，还没开幕呐！
Q105: 我喜欢一个女孩将近三年了，开始在一起了两年，后来她背叛我了。但是我始终爱着她。我们一年没有联系，后来我知道她过得不高兴就又鼓起勇气联系她。现在我们两个人没有交往，但是谈话很愉快，偶尔她也会像以前那样很温柔地对待我，有时候又把距离拉得很远，忽冷忽热地让我不知如何是好。我应该继续追求她吗？A105: 还不清楚？这是典型的她不爱你，你爱她。她占个便宜，你瞎耽误工夫。
27Q106: 一个朋友明年要结婚了，可她突然说不知道自己是为了什么而结婚。因为两个人吵架总是女孩让步，冷战之后总是她先主动联系对方，她说不想让自己这么一味的忍让，怕男的越来越嚣张。可是她不联系，对方就真的不理她，她心里又很难受。快要结婚了，她怕这样下去会出问题。A106: 嘿嘿，结吧，结了婚翻脸也来得及。
Q107: 我每次被人追，都想：交往看看也不错。但是因为不是主动喜欢的所以他们也是蛮辛苦才追上的，但是一旦决定要和人家交往了，自己就会很好地对待他们，就好象自己千辛万苦追来的男朋友一样。然后身份就完全转换了，我处于下风，慢慢人家就嫌我不够级别了，嫌这嫌那的，我就受不了，提出分手。最终还落了个我一身不是，说我决情，说我有别人了。可就是这样，我每次和别人交往还是改不了这毛病，这样算怎么个情况啊？A107: 你真的挺可爱的，也是个好人，但是好人一般都没救，但愿早点有一个知道怎么珍惜你的人追你。
Q108: 有件事一直困扰我。我18岁的时候有个女朋友，交往了一年多，那会我成绩好，外型也好，就总是有不少女生找我。其实也没什么，大不了就是去看个电影滑滑冰，可是那个女孩子就很痛苦，还总在我面前哭，这样我就越烦她，就更爱出去和别的女生一起玩。让我没想到的是她居然自杀，吞了一百颗安眠药，还写了遗书给我，幸好被同学发现抢救过来了。当时老师把我带去医院的时候那种恐惧到现在都忘不了。高中毕业后我们就没再联系，可是最近我哥们告诉我她在向他打听我的电话！他问我给不给，我很迷茫！我好像很害怕她！A108: 你就矜持点吧，哥们儿，人命都快玩出来了，还想闹。
Q109: 我觉得我很倒霉，我有一个脾气不好的女朋友和一个脾气不好的妈。我女朋友是那种很独立的女人，在单亲家庭长大，喜欢什么都做主，我做的事她总觉得不对，就爱说我。跟她吵她就要搬出去，我又舍不得她走。我妈很疼我，看不得我受气，就会找起给我女朋友受，而且她也是个爱做主的人，家里整天硝烟滚滚的。A109: 天啊，你这两个女人要用她们的爱把你烧死。这么着：你搬出去吧，让这两个爱死你的女人去好好搏斗一次，说不定就好了。
Q110: 玩网络游戏的时候认识了一个同龄的男孩子，那时候我马上要毕业了，很无聊，而他又是个待业青年，每天两人就腻在游戏里。慢慢我们就互相喜欢上了。现在我刚毕业回了老家，他前些天说要来找我，和我在一起。昨天晚上我去游戏里找他没找到，游戏里的朋友告诉我跟大家告别了说要暂时离开，为来找我做准备。我心里有点兴奋也有点忐忑，不知道他来了会怎么样？不知道以后会怎么样？A110: 生活变成游戏了，悬念多多。你看看这个游戏你玩得来吗？
28Q111: 你好！我是读者桃子，向你提个问题，希望能够给我点意见！刚认识一个男生，人很厚道正直，我有心交往下去。但是，他似乎并不是我想找的那种人，我是留洋硕士，他却很土，我不知道我们是不是能够互相适应对方，但是我们岁数都不小了，我又不知道以后能不能碰到这么好的人，我们该继续相处下去吗？A111: 我真替你男朋友捏把汗，像你这样要面子的女生很容易吃着碗里的，惦记着锅里的。留洋有什么了不起的，驴子拉到国外转一圈也能比马值钱吗？
Q112: 我遇到了一件很挠头的事。半年前我和她认识，当时也知道她有男朋友，只是不在身边。或许我们为了彼此填补感情的空虚而在一起。现在她朋友回来准备和她结婚。她怀孕了，孩子是我的，她跟她男朋友说孩子是他的，可怕日后他发现真相，正准备去做掉。她想让我和那男的见一面，希望我们成为朋友；她还说她同时爱我们两个，结婚以后我还可以去找她。我还是爱她，忘不了她的，我今后是否继续和她的交往？A112: 这真是很像肥皂剧了，那孩子永远不是丈夫的。如果你们真的相爱就求她离开男朋友，如果那么不相爱那就让人家好好过日子。你这交朋友不太靠谱，怎么听上去像个不安好心的黄鼠狼啊！
Q113: 我25岁，我男朋友是大学同学，相恋7年了，感情一直非常好，一次偶然我认识了一个男孩，我们又偶然一起遭遇了车祸，共同患难和休假让我们联系多起来，不知不觉就越走越近。我的情况他都知道，我很迷恋跟他在一起的时候，但是我又不能对不起我男朋友。他也希望我能跟男朋友分手，跟他在一起。A113: 那你就跟你男朋友分手跟他在一起，你不才25岁吗？换人不是什么太奇怪的事情，跟着感觉走吧。
Q114: 女友婚后九年只身去了过去，邂逅一80年代已婚男子，原本彼此以为只是一场艳遇，不料当她老公来和她团聚时，那男孩却已深深爱上她不肯放手了，并且直接找她老公摊牌要女友在两个男人中做出选择，当时情陷其中的女友选择了那男孩，可问题是那男孩小女友12岁，彼此付出这么大代价的姐弟恋真能修成正果吗？洪姐，智慧如你，请指点指点迷津。A114: 情人应该知道自己的位子，小情人想篡位是很头疼的事情，三思而行吧。
Q115: 一个男的吻了你，然后当作没事，也不给一个解释，这是什么意思呢？我很不开心，难道我把问题想得太严重？一个吻又不会生小孩。但在我心里一个吻是多么地重要，我承认很多方面我还是比较传统，我该怎么办？A115: 你也吻他一下，然后什么都不说走开吧。
29Q116: 如果发现老公登陆交友网站，并说自己是单身寻找陪同关系的女友，又慌称自己年薪美金1-2万。网站上还放了自己若干比较帅的照片。并且其中有一个女的是在他经常出差的城市。另一个所在城市和星座都和他以前曾经出轨时发展过一个女人的一模一样。他其实还喜欢那个出轨的女人还不想维持这段婚姻吗？A116: 意淫一下没什么太了不起的，变成实际行动就不太好玩了。既然这是老毛病，你干脆推他一把，让他去给别人当丈夫吧。问题不是他要不要这婚姻，是你要他干什么呀？
Q117: 女友白领一族，四十冒头，丈夫已去世多年，女儿也已上大学。偶然相识现在的男友。但是两人在生活环境，收入，受教育程度等方面存在一些差异，而且男方还想要孩子，女友已没有再生育的打算。很担心即便男方退一步不要孩子，两人各方面的差异也很难将婚姻维持到底。女友应该怎么办？是不是应该嫁给他？A117: 同居一段就知道行不行了。
Q118: 我刚21，18岁的时候把第一次给了我的初恋，现在遇到一个我特别喜欢的男孩，这是他的初恋，所以他接受不了我不是处女，跟我分手了，我还想坚持，有必要吗？有用吗？A118: 这么幼稚的男孩子就算了吧。
Q119: 发现爸爸有外遇了，妈妈看样子还不知道，现在还没有影响到家庭，爸爸还是很照顾妈妈和我。我19了，我不知道我应不应该介入这个事情，或者给爸爸提一个醒，或者找那个女人或者就装傻子。我该怎么办？A119: 跟你爸谈谈，让他别再欺骗你妈妈，要不好好过日子，要不就谈开了。
Q120: 今年19岁，谈过几个男朋友，觉得自己年龄还小。从来没想过婚姻的问题。跟男朋友相处的时候有很多次都很想发生关系，可心里总有点顾虑。害怕将来的老公会嫌弃自己不是处女，害怕因为不是处女以后的男朋友就不珍惜自己了。怎么看待婚前性行为，怎么看待同居，怎么看待贞操？A120: 我都不知道有这么多处女看《乐》，很荣幸。我们这个栏目是少儿不宜的，赶紧翻页。
Q121: 我26了，第一次谈女朋友，半年多了，父母希望我们赶快结婚。可是我骨子里不想结婚，其实说白了是我感觉她从学历到家庭上有点配不上我。我有种多谈几个女朋友然后结婚的想法，但我又担心离开她后也许再也找不会找到像她这样对我好的人，我很矛盾，我该怎么办？A121: 既然是骨子里就好办了，告诉你父母他们没把你骨头生好。就一贱骨头，非得多谈几次，赖他们头上！

Hair

Blubbss.. my colleagues were making fun of my hair during lunch time just now, saying how it looks like Rainie Yang T_T I didn't intend to copy her, really~~~ One of them suggest I cut my hair into a bob instead.. Good idea leh, I'm thinking.. Should I? But I'm so broke leh.. Will I look funny with a bob and a fringe? Sigh.. better than this stupid hairstyle right...

My wish list

Blubbs since you say must post about fashion right... Now I'm posting my wish list.. things I saw on my shopping spree last Sunday but still considering whether to buy or not cause expensive.. *batting eyelashes at you*


*Drumroll* First... Swatch watch~~ Very nice okay.. I like it, the strap is made from rubber though, dunno will turn yellow. But it's 119 Sing dollars, quite worth it la.. I went to see other brands like Titus they cost 300+, but the strap is made from plastic or leather instead of rubber. I think I'm going to buy after checking and comparing the price in Malaysia.. I really like it~~ But what to do with my old watch? Poor old watch..

Second... Guess jeans!!!! I don't really know what model is it so I just took a random picture of jeans from the Guess website T_T The colour is similar to the washed portion of the jeans in the pictures, but the jeans is not washed and it's straight cut, not flared like the one shown above. Quite glam lerr~ I likie.. It's about 160+ sing dollars after 50% discount, uhh.. cannot afford.. and I bought 2 new jeans before this alread T_T But but but.. it's really fitting and nice.. but but but.. if I go buy now maybe sold out already gua...

And lastly....White cardigan to go with my dresses (including the dresses we bought at Taipan) and with my jeans and shorts sometimes (I realised my jackets are all funky ones.. don't have demure ones to suit the demure and gentle me *cough*) Was this the one that I saw that day at the American Eagles Outfitters website? Can't remember.. Something like that lah..Anyway today I'm going home le.. maybe tomorrow or Sunday I shall go MNG and see.. there cardigans RM60 only.. I've heard that the 50% sale is still on, but then my friend said all the nice ones go already =( See lah.. me so indecisive.. actually went before already, but still cannot decide whether to buy or not.. after doing survey of other brands.. find that MNG is cheapest and worth for money T_T boohoo wish me luck

Oh yaa.. wait wait.. I also want a medium sized leathery bag to bring to work, school and shopping. But good bags all so expensive leh.. 200 dollars and above.. the one in picture no need to say la.. today I saw someone carrying the same brand of bag lor.. so rich but take MRT to work.. =_= aih go buy cheap cheap one can le haha.. nobody can tell right? =X

As you can see.. I still got nothing much to do at work.. today am exceptionally free and relaxed.. cuz boss out for meetings whole day wahah... still pondering whether today should be my last day.. haha should I write another post about my taukey since I'm so free =P Maybe I will haha

Fashion Post....

Eh.....our blog has the word fashionable but we've yet to mention anything about fashion....tsk tsk tsk...cannot.....

Here let me be so kind as to fulfill that criteria...today I wore:

pink sweatshirt(cold weather la......where got take fashion into consideration..somemore must go to work.....whatever was on the top pile of the closet just grab la=x)
jeans of course what else=.='''''''

Err....that's it really.....but but but..it's very classy la...blend in with the crowd=x

I shall now go dig a hole and bury myself in it.

Hand in Hand

Boo....no....nobody made me miserable in college=).....but uni life is so different.....blah......people.....all sorts of people>.<.......but regardless who cares....I guess my dad is right..why care what people say if I know it's not true(not easy though at timesT_T)....my college life was fun thanks to you...hohoho.....imagine how lucky I was that my roomie was allergic to carpet therefore we moved to Apt A403....(stop cringing....it was your luckiest day okay...stop pretending to drop dead on the floor!!!!)....I know how people that often visit our apartment really are...but they were you friends...so regardless of how i thought they might truly be, it was best to think they were all nice and cute out of respect for you.=)......doesn't mean I actually felt that way...sorry.......I'm horrible I know....

Somehow the reason as to why I became so cincai is because like I've said to you once, we've only have one lifetime...might as well make the best of it...why make enemies....let's just separate on good terms....doesn't mean I'm trying to butt kiss people....but let's just not give some people all the more reasons to wreck havoc=)....Seeing others happy makes us happy too right...hahaha....

Anyway...blubbie...today it was like valentine's day...an early one....I dunno why....but I was driving down the road and at a red light, I saw a couple in their late 50s walk to the car....the spouse actually opened the door for her and held it while she settled in...so sweet.....

That was only the first incident....the second was at bookstore....it has a coffee place, and here there was a cute couple also in their golden age....the husband got the wife her drink.....then with the other,they walked hand in hand...so cuteT____________T.....

If that's not enough on my way back I saw another older couple togetherT______________T.....and the man gave the lady a peck on the forehead....so cute...they looked so content....

I Miss My PARENTS T___________T.......

Maybe someday we might be just as lucky as these couples and find someone who would stand by ourside forever.....as we slowly age, and walk hand in hand taking in the breeze of the ocean air while waiting for the sun to set=) ( if all else fails and I cannot find a guy die die la.....i will make you hold hand with me...even if I have to drag you.....and if you are married...cincailah...let me be third wheelT___________T.....I will be very quiet while I hold both you guys hands tightly...why la I so memalukan oneT_T........confirm I cannot write emotional pieces la.....Actually I canlah okay...wait la wait next post I write very touching one.....on how I die die must be loyal to a crush=.='''')

Blubbs...

Blubbbss.... I totally understand how you feel~~ I didn't know there's horrible people talking behind your back in college, what did they say about you?

There are painful memories in my college life too.. but I have never told you about it because it involves people you know, people who come up to our apartment often, and from the way you talk about them, I'd rather you still think that same way about them, that they are nice and cute and interesting. That is why college is never the best time of my life, even though I have a soot soot housemate who goes shopping with me =) I've learned so much about people, especially the species called girls and like you, I build a wall around myself and I don't like to get too close to girls, especially those in a clique. Hanging out with a bunch of girls means you'll get to hear alot of gossips and bitching and I don't like that, it's not nice to talk about people in that manner and you can't help but wonder whether they did talk about you in that manner when you're not around. So I'll always keep quiet and just smile and give excuses not to participate in their outings and activities. It's kinda pathetic.. but it's my way to protect myself.

But I think it's okay to meet your friend up.. guys are less likely to care or mind this kind of gossip. If he wants to meet you up, I bet he is sincere, he just wants to talk and catch up with you. Trust me on this =) Because after the incident in college, the guys are still on good terms with me, it's just the girls....

Guys are not that bitchy, that's why I prefer hanging out with guys.. but, because of this... the girls see me as someone who prefers lust over friends =_= and of course, the bitching came. In their eyes, I seem to be someone flirty or desperate or something like that and this made me so so so mad. Girls are horrible meanies, aren't they? Sigh...

What If....

So blubbie,

Guess what, today out of the blue, an old friend from college talked to me on msn...and it's been 2 years since I last heard from him. It's funny how I've always felt as though he was my brother and now a total stranger....

To be honest, I don't feel like seeing him......cause of all the things he's been hearing from the grapvines...I don't want him to have the impression that I'm no longer the friend he knew back then.....or get the idea that I'm that of the person whom others have described....

One thing's for sure...though I may not be that girl they think I am.......vicious or evil or something along that line, I have changed. I tense up and build a wall against myself when people get too personal....for it's as though I need to have my guards up in case anyone of them is one of those people talking behind my back....

I don't want someone whom I use to confine in look at me in a different eye....or maybe he's no longer considers me as a friend and was just trying to be courteous saying that we'll meet up since he's here....

So I may be wrong and he will not judged, but there will always be the feeling that he will wonder if I was ever the person they say I am....

On a happy note, I've finally opened your package..thank you..me likie the snowglobe, so pretty....and I went swimming today...so relaxing....

Over-blessed?

That day my mum called me after she came back from China, telling me that she had got me the perfume I wanted. *uh-oh* I've already pestered ah yeff to buy me the perfume, and it is now sitting proudly in my closet, still 80% full, probably a lifespan of half a year more to go T_T. I didn't dare to tell her that, and when she asked me, "your perfume all finish already, right?" I was like yeah, yeah.. Then she told that she had gotten me the biggest bottle of it (oh no!) and it costed about rm280+. I felt so so guilty, even more so considering the fact that I gave her 100 sing (about rm230) before she left for China and she used that money back on me. And I was really surprised that she remembered after like 2 or 3 months, wow~

And I told you about my screwed up bed right? Because my father asked me to give them his number when I ordered that set of furniture, after I requested them to change the bed size, for some unknown reason they called my father again to ask about the bed size. That night I received a call from my brother. Lol he was so funny, the first thing he asked when I picked up the phone was... "ey, the bed you ordered... is SSSUUUPPPPEEEERRRRR single right, not SINGLE?" In my heart I was like "oh sh*t, they called my father!". I had to act cool (cannot spoil my image mahh), and said "yalar.. I ordered wrongly, I realised my mattress is single, but I got them to change already, so what's up now?" I thought I might hear something like, "ooh daddy is mad so he asked me to call you and ask", but instead what I heard was "oooh nolah, cuz daddy is talking about buying a new mattress for you". Phew~~~ I was quite touched to hear that actually, after a day's of work where screwing people up is my boss' hobby.

And then when I talked to blubbie online she was telling me that she got me something I've always wanted for my early birthday present (errr. it's only like january? =_=) That really got me wondering, do I have something that I've always wanted? (Maybe except for that LV bag and Gucci wallet and Prada coat =p) Then I realised I don't really lack anything actually, the stuff I want are just like new clothes, a new watch, a new bag blah blah, they're all wants, not needs (recap from my home economics class in secondary school). These are things I already have, just that I saw nicer ones and got sick of them =P So evil of me right?

By the way, my early birthday present turned out to be a MP3 player!! Wow.. to give me something so expensive.. and you still remember me talking about getting a MP3 player a few months back in KL. So touched again~ sobz...

So hence my blog title, sometimes I feel that I'm probably over-blessed with care and concern from my family and friend, I'm just not aware of it most of the time. We tend to take these things for granted and we're all too blinded by our troubles, misunderstandings and our endless wants and needs. People probably tend to remember unpleasant things and forget about wonderful things easily *shrugs* But heck, who cares now about my unreasonable boss! I have family and friends who support me, I am still very blessed and fortunate =)

So, the moral of the story: Count your blessings (like what my tuition kid said today)

Oooh.. and I've also learned another thing after working this holidays: No matter how much you earn, you'll never think it's enough. Because as you earn more, you want more. Soo... relax... go easy on your money.. splurge a little... go on shopping and eating sprees.... then work hard to earn back the money!! hahaha...

Enough of preaching, bedtime~ I bet you've fallen asleep while reading this post haha =X Love you lots blubbie~~ thanks so much for the mp3 player.. won't divorce you for one day, which is today since I don't get to chat to you much today.. muaha.. sorry my internet went dead just now so can't reply to you on msn. Nights~

Err...too free....

Jean Blubbie,

I am at work but no work to do=x....so here...let me teach you things to do and not to do when traveling in South Korea.

Things Not to Do:

1. Don't take cab to the city ever cause you sure kena rip off horribly....hahahahaha.....err okay this is like the worst tip ever cause everyone knows this.

2. Don't carry a bunny plushie pillow around while walking in the city in search of hotelT_T....people might mistaken you for a 16 year old runawayT_________T.

3. Don't go memalukan diri when going to pay for internet while leaving your stuff on a table 5 inches away from you then freaking out thinking the guy who is just sitting next to you is stealing your stuff. Then shouting at him....and ending up having to apologize profusely and have the person console you instead=.='''''

4. Don't try the yogurt drink thinking ooooh~~~~strawberry then find it a bit sourish and thinking it's how people here drink their yogurt like there's no tomorrow and ends up curling on the bathroom floor in agonyT_T.....

5. Don't go happily book a bunk when it's the korean holiday and go all excited until it only dawns when you arrive that it's a mix dorm and end up sitting in the living room the whole night then begging landlady to switch rooms with the eager feeling of paying a little more...why i so memalukan oneT_T....then some more when finally thought all the guys left, went to sleep only to find someone in the midst of changing shirt when waking up..then have to faster cover face with blanket and pretend to sleep....why why I even more memalukan than i thought....why i so conservative one( but she ended up giving me a whole twin room to myself without extra charge after laughing at me). It wasn't stated in their web page it would be a mix dorm...

Things to Do:

1. Do do try the guesthouse as you'll never know the interesting people you'll meet who just might be friends for life=)....even those guys from the scary mix dorm...hahaha..they were really friendly and suffered more listening to me chatter....hohoho=x

2.Eat lots of food....everything is so nice...the hotpot, the steamboat......

3. Meet the locals, they are the friendliest people ever, err next to us malaysians*kembang*.

4. Oogle at people=x....why everyone looks like movie stars....

5. Go shopping without having to spend a bundle ( don't go departmental store la=.=''''')

Err....that's all I can think of......

Conclusion:
Don't bring me anywhere cause it's obvious I very sat phui one.....=.='''''...never short of embarrassing moments....why laT_T

hohoho.....

Blubbie,

Ya...errr we should thank the person......we're very kamtung=x

Eh....I also tried but my XML not working..my code always comes out error...dunno whyT_T.....

I more aunty since I am one year older...eh cannot...let's bring out the kiasuness in us and errr make it work ( saturday la.....swapped with work at the moment)

Arghhh

Blubsss... I spent 1 hour yesterday trying to make our profile look nicer and sexier... it turns out nice in firefox, but not in internet explorer!! Arghhh... I auntie.. dunno how to blog T_T

And wow.. someone actually read our blog and left a message... hahaha

Why Blubbie is an official Klutz

Jean Blubbie,

I locked myself out of the apartment againT____________________T....this time at 5am when I was moving my stuff into the car....had to sit like a beggar in front of my apartment door for four hoursT_____T...I think I fell asleep halfway=x.....then the construction guys came and tested me first before opening the door to make sure that I am the rightful tenant....only problem was there's was nothing in the houseT_T....so all I could tell him was there's a pink vacuum in the far right corner of the living roomT______________T....

Then when I drove to my new place, I forgot my keysT____________________T......had to drive all the way back...why la am I such a klutz.....

Eh why is your bunny so fat=x.... Look at mine Look at mine.......my bunny pillow is so much cuter*kiasu cannot lose*

Hohoho...China Doll bunny pictures errr gone.....ahhhh how la how la*secretly burns the stash of pictures*

The first post =D

Uh hum... Let me have the honour of posting the first post (actually was forced to by blubbie T_T)

First, my cute cute rabbit ^^



















Lol he looks like he's living in ghetto but actually not okay.. it's the lighting.. He is leading such a good life with lots of good food =P I bet you miss him hehe

And it's ugly ugly owner (liquid's evil twin.. sobzz)



































... wearing the shirt her wifie gave her to go flirt with mistresses ahah

Woi and you owe me 10 chinadoll pics of yourself!!!!!! Got interest of additional 1 photo per day =)

p/s: Argghh I can't get my pictures to align properly.. it's driving me crazy~~!!